Loveable
Can you tell me when you first met?
It was in the summer.
At a party.
I came there with my close girlfriend.
I wasn't doing well. I was going through a divorce.
I've been in a really bad relationship for a long time.
I had two small children that constantly needed me.
Hi.
I'm right there. I just want to tell them good night.
I was doing some projects and tried to apply myself.
And then, suddenly, he was there.
The strange thing about it was that I felt I knew him.
I thought, there you are.
Where have you been all this time?
I've never had such a feeling with anyone before.
- Hi. - Hi.
I feel like I know you.
- I just feel I know you. - Aha.
Okay.
For months, I only thought about how to get him.
I walked around all the places where I could come across him.
Could I have him?
That wasn't certain at all.
Everyone would like that.
I had to prove it. Otherwise I would never forgive myself.
So we found ourselves in the same place one evening.
He was single.
And he had a lot of friends.
I had children.
And he loved them from the first moment.
That's how it was.
Seven years later
Hello?
Yes. I wrote the proposal yesterday.
Do you need that too? Okay, I'll call later, it's chaotic here.
Get down.
Rejected.
So... Wait.
Also rejected.
Stop it.
Hi can you call me?
You have to transfer money, There is nothing on the card.
Mikaeli, stop it.
Hi!
Lighter shade or sequin?
I need to poop!
- So go! - You don't care.
Ludvigu? Can you clear the dishwasher?
Why me? Alma made the mess in the kitchen.
- Here, Stelo. - I'm hungry. What's for dinner?
- Dad picks us up in 45 minutes. - The teacher said we didn't turn this in.
Stelinka, not this.
- Mom, done... - Almo, will you help him?
- Ugh, I won't wipe his ass. - Please.
- I don't have time, I have to pack. - Just do what I say.
- So I'll go without it. - We'll do it, Ludviga.
You say that. Last time I didn't even have it.
- Mom! - You see, he doesn't want to help.
- It stinks there. - Great, so you take Stella. Hovanous, come here.
You didn't come for them last weekend.
We had a tournament, so it was not possible.
You couldn't? You have to talk to me.
The kids were waiting for you.
You can't do what you want, and not pick up your phone.
- Okay, ready. - I'll grab my headphones.
- Go away! - I just want to talk to you.
I said, go away. Close it!
I understand it is difficult to see when your dad and I argue like this.
- Get out! -Watch out, that hurt. - I said, close it!
- I didn't do anything. - You're evil and annoying. Go away!
- That's enough! You can't... - I hate you!
Dad, can I move in with you? I can't stand it here anymore.
It is not out of the question.
- My little girl. Sweetheart. - Your breath stinks.
Bye, handsome.
Look in my eyes, When we say goodbye.
Darling, you are forty years old!
Come with me to Barcelona!
I love you.
- Hi. - Hi.
I bought the wool bottoms for the kids. I hope they will be ok.
It was fun trying to find them.
- How are you? - How do you think?
You probably understand that it bothers me that you never come when you say.
I understand. Things dragged. I couldn't do anything about it.
You don't answer my phone.
Yea, I do, when I can.
You're amazing.
Was it good? Did you manage everything?
It went quite well, in fact.
I played with a few of these people before. So we vibed well.
But the producer had slightly different ideas.
So we changed it up for a while.
I was quite tired. I wasn't in top shape.
I usually sleep badly in hotels, so I was grogy.
It lasted all day. It was exhausting.
It must be exhausting. Sleeping at the hotel and...
God, it's great to be home again.
Wednesday was challenging. Nothing was working out for us. For hours...
Mikael had a trouble at school. Again.
He threw a stone at the windows.
They've been asking us for a meeting for two months.
But I said that I have to wait for you.
- So we can do it together. - Okay.
We'll do it. I'm glad you told me.
I love you.
- I don't. - No?
That's stupid.
You're stupid. You keep leaving me alone. It's hell.
I should report you to the police.
Attempted murder. I almost didn't survive today.
And when I thought that it can't be any worse
and finally made dinner, the fire alarm went off.
You hung it so high that I had to use three chairs to reach it.
Unfortunately, I saw my reflection in the mirror.
And I looked so terrible that I could shoot myself.
I love you.
Honey.
And then today they threw the whole project on my shoulders.
- Come on. - Please don't say, come on.
I just don't have it in me.
You can't make conclusions from one try.
Can you stop with this? I have nothing more to offer.
You can't think like that. You have a lot to offer.
You're strong, you have convictions.
You could have chosen an easier way. You didn't. That's why I love you.
You can, you have to believe it. Try to see a positive outcome from a distance.
You're always at a distance, and I'm stuck here all the time.
I can't do it when I have the children all the time. I'm exhausted.
I can't concentrate on work.
This week I had to cancel one meeting after another, because of everything, for dentists...
It doesn't work. I can't concentrate on the job.
I will be home for two weeks now, so you can work.
Two weeks? Are you kidding?
We agreed that you'll stop traveling.
- It wasn't final. - It was. Did you take another job?
It wasn't clear this was for the best.
If something happens and we need to have additional income.
- So you just assumed that I could handle it? - No, stop that.
I said clearly, I don't want it to be like this!
I don't have time or space to breathe. I can't continue like this.
You are not the only one who works. We have to find a different solution.
I can't back out now. It's been two weeks.
I am struggling here alone. So you can just cancel.
That would make me absolutely unreliable. I will never get a job again.
So at least you will help me. That's how I feel.
Yes, I understand.
That's good to hear.
Of course.
Sure.
That's a good idea.
I agree.
I totally agree.
We really care about this. I'm glad we're doing this.
So...
Are you dealing with the school on the phone?
Yes, we really appreciate it. Really?
- We have to pull together. - We will solve it together.
- I'll do it. He will be happy. - Can you hang up?
Great, we stay in touch. I'm glad we discussed it.
- Can you hang up? - Sounds like a plan. See you.
What the hell are you doing? I'm talking to someone here!
Did you deal with them on the phone?
- Did you arrange anything? - And why not. They called first.
They said we were postponing it for too long and we had to talk.
Yes, I said We do have to talk.
We postponed it because you've been gone for months.
I said I was waiting for you, so that we can both be there.
- Don't you understand it is important? - Is it really rocket science?
I don't have to ask you everything.
I postponed it for you. But you cut me out completely.
Calm down. We agreed that it will be judged by the school board.
Then it won't be up to us.
- Did you arrange this? - Yeah.
You can't just do that when I'm not here.
This does not need judging by someone else.
You have no idea what he needs right now. Are you a completely stupid?
Are you? You just can't do something like this!
You can't show up here, do what you want, and not even ask me.
Why did you do that?
Can you answer me?
Why did you do that? Do you not give a fuck what I think?
Get fucked!
Stop! Don't you see I am trying to help you?
I'm trying to do something proactive. I can't stand this anymore!
Marie?
What is it?
This is not working.
What do you mean by that?
You can't act like this. Someone has to help you with that anger.
- Help? - Yes.
Some anger management or something.
I can't do this.
I can't do this either.
- I mean it, seriously. - Me too.
I do not need any anger management course. But maybe you do?
The way you treat me- it destroys me.
What I'm doing? What you're doing, makes me sick.
You're so angry. Look at yourself. You're raging.
What you mean is that I should change, because you want to stay the same?
Plus, you're at least as angry as I am.
Hello?
Who wants yogurt?
- Me! - Ok, say please.
But no. You see it?
Can you wipe this up? Thank you. That's helpful.
It was just a little bit. Do you want milk too?
Good morning. There is coffee in the kettle. Help yourself.
Mom!
- Mom! - Stello!
- Mikaeli. We have to go. - Okay.
Well.
- Dad... - Yeah.
We're going, Mikael.
So come.
- Dad. - Let's go.
I am willing to work on myself, you know.
But I am not going to accept that you will not participate in it.
Wait for your dad.
Do you want a divorce?
For God's sake, answer me.
Dad is coming.
- Who wants to go to bed? - I...
Will you sleep here?
I have a headache. I need to sleep.
- Can we not talk? - I don't have it in me right now, Marie.
Can't we at least sleep together?
I have to keep it together. I'm not good.
I can't just change.
You know how tired I am. I can't.
You'll wake up the children.
We'll talk about it tomorrow. It's too late.
- Did you meet someone else? - Not at all.
So what's going on?
- What's the matter? - We'll talk tomorrow.
We have to sleep. Please.
I can't stand this.
I can't stand here like this.
- Okay, no. - No?
I'll leave.
Until you find out what you want. The kids will be with you.
- Okay. - Okay?
Okay.
Is this a good solution? Me leaving?
You came up with it. If that's what you need.
I just can't stand it in this house, when it's like this.
I understand that. Just do what's best for you.
So you think, that's what is best for me?
Mikaeli, do you think I'm very angry?
- No. - Marie, snap out of it.
- Mikael, do you find your mom angry? - Stop it.
Would he tell me if he thought so?
Can you at least hug me?
I love you.
Shit... You're such a ass-hole.
How shitty...
- Thank you. You're very nice. - I try to be.
- I'll call you. Good luck. - Thanks. You too.
Sigmund here. I can't talk now. Please leave a message.
I can't talk now. Please leave a message.
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A little space.
- Hi. - What are you doing here?
I just wanted to see you. How about going for coffee?
Don't come here. It's embarrassing.
What's embarrassing, that I came to greet you?
Just go away, Mom!
Don't you understand how this hurts me? I'm just trying to be nice.
You don't have to talk to me like that. You can at least hug me.
I don't want you to come here. Is that so hard to understand?
And why not? I never come here.
This is so horrific, that someone will stop by here?
I never come to school. I thought you would like it.
For God's sake, but this is awkward, when your mother comes to greet you.
- A terrible embarassment! - You're crazy, Mom.
So go! Just go! Leave!
Almo, I'm sorry. It was stupid. Sorry.
Sigmund here. I can't talk now. Please leave a message.
Hi, it's me.
I just wanted to know how you are doing.
And if you come to the city tomorrow, could you bring me an eczema cream?
It's in the upper shelf in the bathroom, to the left.
I'm very itchy.
More than normal. I don't know what it is.
I can't sleep. I guess I'll have to go to the doctor.
You couldn't call me, or write?
I forgot to take socks and underwear.
If you could bring those too. Okay.
Good.
Honey
I just have a meeting. I found only the blue underwear.
I know you don't like these very much, but this morning was a bit hectic.
And this is the cream, isn't it?
Did you decide what you want?
I think we both need a little time and space.
Now it is important for me not to define anything.
- I have to go back there. - Remember...
You have to treat Mikael's wart. Once a week.
- The solution is in the bathroom on the shelf. - I've already done that.
And the thermos. When I washed it after the school trip, it stunk.
You have to dismantle it and rinse it with boiling water.
- Okay, I'll do it. - And...
I never had a chance to give you this.
You have to read it.
I haven't found a babysitter yet. But I'll do it.
To know what awaits us.
When we're together again.
The holiday is already paid. So you can take someone else with you.
- I have to go back. - I was looking forward to working again.
But in this situation, I can't.
And I don't have a job with sick leave, so I won't have money.
So you will have to pay all the bills.
So I should come back, so I don't lose my job.
- I really want to work. - I know.
I don't understand why you're doing this. I don't understand.
- We can't discuss it now. - I'm not good enough for you anymore?
If I had improved, you wouldn't have done this?
But I can't improve. I can't.
I really try. I'm completely exhausted.
I sacrificed everything, what I dreamed of.
- I'm a complete shit. - Don't hit yourself.
- I'm not worth anything. - Don't do this, please.
When I take a course with people that are beating their
children or have psychiatric issues, will you want me? Tell me what to do!
I am so horrible, I don't know that either.
Look at me. I'm going back in.
You have to get it together. Talk to someone. It will help you.
He won't leave you.
I don't believe that. He just needs a little space.
I don't know.
I have a feeling that anything can happen.
As if I didn't know him anymore. I don't understand what he's doing.
He never had a long relationship before you.
And then he met Dracula.
That was a little bad luck.
But seriously. He lacks the experience you have.
With children and previous relationships.
- Did he have any relationships before? - Yeah, half a year.
But he hasn't experienced such a situation yet.
When someone has to try, to make it work.
- I think you two need therapy. - But he doesn't want therapy.
He wants me to change.
He can't say that.
He would have to say that before a third person.
If they are scared, distancing from
someone else, they're certainly not saying something.
Has he ever attended therapy? No.
Is he talking about it with friends?
He doesn't vent much about anything. Except with me.
If he really wants to leave you, a mediator is mandatory.
When you have children and want a divorce.
- Maybe he would nod. - That's a minimum.
- Maria and Sigmund? - Yes.
Good morning.
Come on.
So Sigmund says that he feels he doesn't have space.
And that he feels trapped. Do I understand it well?
Yes. It destroys me. I don't know.
It's hard to know now. That's why I need space.
Do you need space? You're still working.
And I'm all alone. I'm exhausted.
You have a lot of space. How can you say this?
We agreed I would finally work and you will stay at home.
You still take a job, I tell you to cancel it, and you want a divorce!
Where the hell are we?
I understand, that you have a lot to get off your chest, Marie.
But can we first focus on you, Sigmunde?
- Is it okay, Marie? - Yes.
Why is it difficult for you to get space, when you feel you need it?
It's not that easy to say.
Personal space and work are two different things.
You have at least one of them, I don't have any.
Maria interferes with everything, she's everywhere.
I don't know how to explain it.
I don't feel good anywhere.
I have no way to get involved. I have no place at home.
Now there is no room for anyone. It's a really hectic period.
I'm interested in what you want to say, Sigmunde.
Why is it so hard for you to find space?
I don't know why I can't get any space.
But what do you mean? That you don't get the space?
We are in perpetual conflict.
Especially when I try to have some space.
Are conflicts difficult for you?
Yes, they are exhausting.
Do you think it's just Maria's fault, that you have so little space?
Or can you do something about it?
I don't know. In fact, I don't know what to say now.
There's so much anger that I can't see clearly.
Sure, the man is angry when everything is still on me.
- It's not fair. - There's a lot on me too.
I took care of your children from the previous relationship.
That's something costly.
Will we count that too?
Of course I appreciate what you are doing for the older children.
But you coming to stay with us, that was hard transition for everyone.
If you could just be here now, I would have a lot more time and freedom.
We just have to survive this phase.
Children are small, we don't have a nanny.
We do not have grandparents to help. We have uncertain finances.
We have to hold it together with four children.
He can escape from it, when he goes tough.
- I have already divorced once... - This is from the winter holidays.
Did you record it?
We cannot leave if he doesn't have a jumpsuit!
It was the only thing you were in charge of!
But you don't care! See you!
It's taken out of context. You can't let it go.
Good. I don't think we have to listen to it now.
My God.
Do you ever get get angry, Sigmunde?
No... I don't know.
But you feel angry when Marie is angry with you.
If you don't know if you're angry, maybe that's a problem.
But you understand that your anger affects this?
That's just the distance.
I do not think that if I take an anger management course, it will solve it.
I understand it is difficult for you, to defend yourself.
But I find it strange to accept, that you need more space.
Since you have more space than me.
We have to solve it together and I am willing to go to therapy. Together.
Yea, I don't know if I'm ready for that.
The time will expire soon, so we'll finish up.
I would like to explain and summarize at what stage we are now.
Marie, you want this relationship to work. Is that right?
And Sigmunde, What do you want now?
I'm not sure If I want to continue.
But you have to say something. I can't live with this uncertainty.
You have to be able to say if you want to try to fix it or not.
This is horrible. I have nothing to take away from this.
I can't get out of this mental space.
This is difficult for you, Mary. I understand that.
You want to return home and put things right.
- Yes. - Yes, I understand.
We could set a deadline, when you give Mary a clear answer?
Ok well.
What would you say. A day or a week?
That would be good, so she doesn't have to wait too long.
I can express myself in a few days.
Great. So until Wednesday in the evening?
Does it suit you, Marie?
In any case, we will meet here on Thursday.
And we'll discuss a little more, what awaits you next.
Together and separately.
I think it's important.
Sorry. Are we finished? I guess they called me from work.
Could you help me with some personal info?
Sure.
He said he would give me an answer me in the evening, but nothing yet.
He will definitely answer. He normally keeps his promises, right?
Yeah. He'll consider if we're married...
It's going to be okay. I just think...
I don't know. What do you think he will write?
Try not to think about it. Breathe deeply.
Try to sleep a little. He loves you. I know that.
If he leaves you, he's stupid. And he's not.
I have to go to sleep. Could you not answer me?
I fell asleep with Stella. I just wrote you an email.
Dear Marie, I would like to thank
you for all the beautiful moments.
They meant a lot to me.
But you have to prepare for the fact that I will leave this relationship.
Sigmund here. I can't talk now. Please leave a message.
Mom!
I can't stand this. I can't stand it.
Prepare for the fact that I will leave this relationship.
Sigmund here. I can't talk now. Please leave a message.
I get that you won't answer. I'm coing home for the children.
So go where you want. I can do this without you.
But I won't say a word to you anymore.
I hope you are happy. I won't be in this hole anymore.
I'm going home and ending this.
At least kindly confirm that you got this message.
Cool. You can keep your children.
What? Did he really write this?
So... Super.
I am very sorry that it is like this.
I just have to go through a terrible hell.
I can do it. I have a lot of work anyway.
I have to clean the bathroom and send a few emails.
Should I stop by?
I'll take a brush. Today I can sleep there.
You're very nice, but I can do it. No need.
- Are you sure? - I can do it.
But if you change your mind, you can call me. Do you promise?
- Do you promise? I will call. - Ok bye.
- Hello. - Hello.
We have to wait for Sigmund.
He just wrote to me that he isn't coming.
- Did he? And why can't he come? - He didn't say.
Shit.
But when you have time, we could continue further.
Myself?
Maybe you'll get something out of it. Who knows?
Apparently it turned out a little differently than you expected.
I don't know why I'm sitting here, when he needs this.
He just gets out of it and won't do anything?
He will need to, I think. One way or another, whether he comes here now or not.
But it is not important to you what he is doing right now.
You have to take care of yourself and your own life now.
You have to concentrate on solving your affairs.
What's within you.
What do you mean what's within me?
That's the big question.
We should focus on what role you play?
Me? He wants to leave. Do you think I provoked it?
- Do you think that? - No. I don't know what you mean.
Do you hold any responsibility for this situation?
I guess so. I probably have a small share in it.
But that doesn't matter much now, when he wants a divorce.
All right.
So we start with your little share.
Okay.
Last time you told me he had returned from work and wanted to take another job.
And that he called the school, without discussing it in advance.
And then he suddenly wanted a divorce.
Yes.
- Would you tell me again? - I told you.
Yes. But try to say it again.
Tell me how he returned home, after he was gone for six weeks.
I was very tired. I filled the dishwasher.
And he just walked into the door.
And what happens when you see him? How did you feel?
I was glad to see him. I love him. I felt that.
And then?
He's happy. He's coming towards me, he wants to hug me.
I leave the dishes and go to him. He hugs me.
- Do you embrace him too? - Not too long.
Don't you want to hug him?
Actually, no.
Why don't you want to hug him, when you felt so happy to see him?
- I don't know. - And then what happens?
He starts to help me with the dishes.
Did you miss anything?
When you stop hugging him, what does he do?
I don't know. Maybe he's a little surprised or sad.
And you?
I turn away.
Why?
- I don't know. - Why are you turning away like this?
I want him to feel badly.
Why do you want that, to make him feel bad?
- I don't know. - Because he did something?
- Yes, he left us. - But did you agree?
- Yes. - So you agreed.
- Yes. - Why do you feel badly?
I don't know.
And what happens then?
- He starts talking about the job. - He's sharing with you?
- Yes. He's pleased. Telling me. - And you?
I don't like it. I want him to stop.
- Why? - I don't know.
I'm just uncomfortable. So I break it up.
And what do you say?
Mikael had trouble at school. Again.
You want him to feel that Mikael's problems are his?
I know he's not responsible for them.
But you still want to feel like it.
- Yes. - Why?
Because it happened when he was gone. Because he wasn't here with me.
Do you think he could do something differently in that situation?
No.
But you still want him to feel guilty.
Yes.
Why?
Why do you want to make him feel bad?
You remember other situations, where you wanted him to feel like this?
Try to remember the moments, when you behaved like this.
Are you ok?
With pleasure I know that we are fortunate
As long as I live here with pleasure
I am just an optimist
What is happening in this situation?
I don't want to dance because it's not comfortable for me.
I feel stupid.
When they see that I am happy, they will laugh at me.
I don't want to lie like that.
- Hey, I'll do it. - That's ok.
It's not worth it. You don't know what's what.
- I know. I'll do it. - When I segregate them,
I have underwear for Mikael and Ludvig gets Stellina's pants.
You don't even know the cotton patterns.
But I know. Sit down. I'll do it.
No! You're never here. You don't know what goes where.
In the end I have to do it myself. It's just giving me another job.
Ok well. Whose is this?
- Yours? - Sure, mine.
Great, Sigmunde. Look.
Does it fit? It's Mikaela's.
What about this?
These are Almina's pants.
They're pajamas. Ludvig's pajamas. See?
I think you've known for a long time you want to leave.
I don't understand. You did so much for the relationship.
You're the one who's vulnerable. He is the one who wants to leave.
Maybe I was waiting around because of what happened in my childhood.
Dad left mom. I have been so worried about it since
then that I subconsciously stick it out in the relationship.
Why would you do that?
Maybe I'm trying to keep him somehow.
You try to keep him and you push him away?
If he feels guilty, he will
think that I am better than him.
And then he will think that he's lucky to have me.
And that he must stay with me.
So I try to make him feel he is worse than me.
Come to think of it, how terrible am I?
You're kidding.
You think that you are worse than him?
You're great.
I love you very much.
Sorry. The sweater itches terribly.
- It's terribly itchy. The sweater. - Seriously?
Ok well.
You were always afraid that he will leave you?
What happens if he leaves you?
I will die.
- Do you die? - Yes. Or disappear.
Why?
Because he takes everything with him, everything that is good in my life.
Nothing remains.
So if he stays... is only that good enough?
All that is good, is tied to him?
Yes in a certain way.
In a certain way he is too good for me.
Actually I don't understand why he's with me.
But sooner or later it will come up.
When he has time, to create space for himself.
Or to be with other people.
He will see that it is much better to be there than with me.
Hi.
My little girl.
You could at least comb your hair.
Good morning. You are here.
- Your father is late, I heard. - Yes.
We want to talk about Alma today. You really did it this semester.
Made a great impression on me- what you managed.
And you create a good atmosphere in the classroom.
You are kind, cheerful and caring.
And you turn in assignements on time.
Did you see her workbook? It is perfectly organized.
I didn't see it. Why didn't you show it to me?
I don't have to check her tasks. She's always all right.
That's right.
Other parents complain about class meetings.
How children do not complete tasks.
How they still have to chase after them.
I've never chased after you. You do everything by yourself.
You don't need help or advice. It's great.
Exactly. Is that a little too much for you, Almo?
I don't mind.
That would be your father.
That's him. One second. I'll go get him.
- It's great. - What are you talking about it?
- What? -You don't know about my tasks. - Can't you just be silent?
I wanted to say that you are independent. Can't I even commend you?
- Just don't talk about it anymore. - It's true.
I've never needed to check up on you. I don't have to. You do what you have to.
That's good. It would certainly exhaust you.
- Come on. - Why would you bother.
- Why do you say that? - You're horrible, Mom.
You don't understand anything. You want to work and endure everything.
But I'm not like you. You don't need anything from anyone.
It suits you like that, But I'm not like you.
Hi.
Just to summarize what we said earlier.
Alma is doing great and works well in a team.
Great.
Mary Kristin and Erlend live here.
I'm coming!
Hi. Is that you?
I thought I'd stop by.
Honey. How are you doing, sweet girl?
- Yeah... - Come in.
Fortunately, you're strong.
You're like me. You've always been.
The women in our family last through almost anything.
Actually, I often say, what strong women there are in our family.
Mom, me, you, alma...
I also often think of those years with your dad and the divorce.
Of course it was difficult. But I got through it. We did.
And you have the same power in you. It will be good again, Marie.
It's going to be okay. It will be.
- I brought this to you. - What is it?
Just a gift. Nothing special.
There's a lot of paper.
It's from nice shop around the corner. I know you like it.
- Aha. - Of course you can return it.
You wanted the tea we had in London. Do you remember?
- Seriously? I don't remember that. - Yeah.
You really liked. You said so.
Okay, but you know what? I stopped drinking black tea completely.
They turn my teeth yellow. That's not fun at my age.
You can't enjoy anything.
My neighbor was whitening her teeth.
That's the fashion now. Teeth whitening.
I have a lot of work to do today, So this wasn't quite planned.
Neighbor had a flooding issue. I had to help her with it.
And I have a lot of stress with ticket arrangements for the concert.
And this week they called me at least a hundred times.
Because of the anniversary of our association.
- Aha. - Here's a list of what I have to do.
It's such a mess here, that I can hardly live here.
I wanted to put everything on the ground, but nothing can fit anymore.
And you didn't take your things from the storage either.
- Everything is still laying there. - I can take it.
I will believe it when I see it.
I can still drink green tea.
This one is excellent.
And look at the cute box.
It's cute. Don't you want to sit in your place?
We can switch. I'll sit in your place.
As you like.
But don't you want to sit in your old place?
You always sat there. Like a queen.
You always wanted to just sit there. You didn't have to help.
And I did everything. We jumped around you.
And you sat like a princess and waited for us to serve you.
And that was you. Do you want some cheese?
- Sweetheart. Will you have some? - I'll bring bread. -No.
Why are you talking about that place at the table? What are you trying to say?
- What? - That I just sat there.
And you do everything for me.
That's just how it was.
But why are you telling me this now? What do you want to achieve?
That was just banter.
You liked to be served.
You were such a prima donna.
This is nothing new.
- Do you find it funny? - For God's sake, have a little sense of humor.
Does everything have to be such drama?
When you stop laughing, there's nothing left.
Sweetheart.
I bought great cheese at the deli. Wil you have some?
Are you trying to tell me that I wanted too much?
Actually, I really felt a bit like a maid.
- Sometimes. That's right. - In what sense?
You were just like that. It was hard to give you boundaries.
You were actually quite challenging. Really.
Ok, let's see.
Mom?
- Mom. - Yes. What is it now?
I don't really think it feels good for you to give me anything.
What do you mean? I do nothing but give.
I have been alone with you all these years.
If you didn't notice what I gave you, it really surprises me.
- I'm not saying you didn't give me anything. - No. So what are you saying?
I was all alone, for you.
When your dad left. Drunk and desperate.
Every evening I cried, exhausted, in the kitchen.
I know that.
I was so unfortunate. It was a nightmare.
I must not start thinking about it.
I couldn't do that now. That's certain.
I didn't say you didn't give anything.
- No? - I said...
that I think you don't feel good when I give you something.
- How so? - That it doesn't feel good for you.
That we don't receive gifts well.
- Like the tea I gave you. - Yes?
I think you were not happy that you got it from me.
What are you saying. I was very happy.
- Seriously? - Yes, I was.
- And how did you show it? - I hate these interrogations.
That's what I hate about you.
Now you tell me you don't like me. That you hate me in a way.
- Stop. - As if you were eternally angry at me.
As if you wanted me to be gone. To not feel good.
As if you want to make me feel miserable.
Maybe you felt this anger towards my dad.
Before his death, he said you laughed at him and that it was unpleasant.
- Even about something good. - He has something to say!
Maybe you wouldn't do that, If you knew what you were doing.
Watch your mouth, Marie!
Be so kind!
It seems to me that you want is to make me feel miserable.
Do you ever think of others.
But you never cared. It's just me, me, me!
When you came today I thought to myself: "That's so nice.
Maybe she'll say to me: How are you? Are you tired? Do you need help?"
But no, you're not doing that.
Your brother, yes. He is tender and caring.
When you were little, he was there for me, when I was tired.
You never did anything like that. You're not like that.
Don't you see you don't want to remember anything good about me?
You don't want what I give you. I can never make you happy.
Why could you never could believe that I have something good in me?
That I wish you the best.
That I'm not bad, that I have a good heart.
As if I wasn't good enough for you, no matter what I do.
I understood that I live with an inner voice, which tells me I'm terrible.
And useless. I feel it deep in my chest here.
Ok.
And is that my fault too?
I'm not saying it's your fault, Mom. But maybe...
I guess I can't stand it anymore, Marie. I'm completely exhausted.
I was so glad when you came. But you just came to criticize me.
I'm just one woman.
I'm not a machine and I can't stand everything.
I'll go for a walk. You can leave.
I can't bear so much criticism.
Maybe the others around you do, but I don't.
How are you?
Quite well.
I was thinking about what we discussed last time.
That you feel like the bad one.
The one who can't receive. It must be painful for you.
It's not... painful. It's...
It's fine.
Really?
Many people are much worse off than I am.
But that doesn't mean that it doesn't hurt either.
I probably can't talk so much today.
I didn't sleep at all. I'm terribly...
- Tired. - Okay.
- Do you want to stop? - I'm so tired I can't think.
- I probably have to relax. - You can relax here.
I have the couch here. Don't you want to lie down?
- I can't. - Why not?
- That would be strange, right? - Of course it's up to you.
You are at work. You don't want spend your time in vain.
It would spoil your work day.
Yes, but I want to spend my time like this.
If you need to relax, I'd like to allow you.
Will you accept it from me?
You are tired. And what you need is here.
You can relax here.
If you want.
Okay.
This is really caring.
That was very nice.
I'll sit here.
This is not necessary. Certainly you have a lot of work.
Don't worry about me. I will be better soon.
I'm not going anywhere.
I can sit here and look at you. Or I can look out the window.
But I will be mindful of you.
I am glad that I have that opportunity.
Heck... I'm just tired.
No wonder.
Sorry, I'm just terribly tired.
That's okay.
It's normal, that you feel like this, Marie.
Sorry.
I don't know what it is with me. I didn't sleep at all.
I'm not normally like this. I don't know...
You're such an idiot. A terrible fool...
You're an idiot.
I hate you.
You're horrible. I hate you.
You're...
You're... completely okay.
You're...
You're a good person.
I couldn't tell you before.
Because...
I felt miserable.
My little girl.
You have a good heart.
You deserve...
You deserve love.
You can have it.
You're amazing. You're... amazing.
It's okay, that you need love.
You're amazing.
I love you.
Hi!
Darling! Come to me.
Hi.
You're completely stupid.
You know you're stupid?
Yeah, I know.
You are always tired and you say that you have an important job in Oslo.
But you have no job. You're nothing.
You shouldn't have children at all.
I want to move in with dad. It's much better there.
He's kind. Not as terrible as you.
That's okay if you want that.
I understand you want it.
- Mom. - Almo.
My little girl.
It's normal that you feel like that.
The corner cafe is closed, so we have to find something else.
There?
Good morning.
I'll just have fizzy water and coffee. Cappuccino.
Me too.
I don't really have much to say. You wanted to come down.
But say what you need. I will listen.
I might start crying but...
But not because, I feel sad right now.
And I don't want you to feel guilty, when I speak.
I want you to know that if
you want to leave, you can.
You don't have to feel bad.
If that's what you
need, you should do it.
You don't have to worry I can't handle it.
Because I can.
I can do it.
I have realized lately what I was afraid of.
I was very afraid that you would leave me.
And it was so hard for me to say this.
To you.
I've been so afraid of being left by myself.
A self that I hated so much.
I just want to apologize to you.
That I didn't believe, that you care about me.
And for forcing you to feel guilty.
That I criticized you.
Held you too tight.
It is vital to me...
You are aware of this.
In a certain way, What happened, was actually a gift.
I would very much like to be together.
But now I understand...
I don't want that...
I don't want that if you don't want it.
If we are not together...
It's okay too.
Even so, I can live a good life.
Without you.
Thanks.
You're welcome.
So I will have to deal with my own problems.
But I understand that both us are in this.
And that I have to deal with my share.
I also know I wasn't clear about my needs.
I think it was scary for me to feel I needed anything.
- I have to go. - Okay.
Okay.
- Bye. - Bye.
Hi.
How are you?
It's scary to me. To accept the love you give me.
I'm afraid of it.
What are you afraid of?
When you hug me...
- I think you will leave me. - You think this?
You think I'll leave you?
Come.