1 00:01:48,891 --> 00:01:50,893 Nai Nai, hi! 2 00:02:43,641 --> 00:02:45,687 Do you have a second to save marine life? 3 00:02:47,079 --> 00:02:48,733 - All right. - I was gonna say 4 00:02:48,733 --> 00:02:50,518 something snarky, but I used to work this job. 5 00:02:50,518 --> 00:02:52,084 Ooh, what happened, girl? You got fired? 6 00:02:52,084 --> 00:02:54,652 I quit! Because I was about to get fired. 7 00:02:59,179 --> 00:03:00,702 Hey. 8 00:03:09,406 --> 00:03:10,277 Okay. 9 00:05:11,833 --> 00:05:14,052 So one day, the wife goes out of town. 10 00:05:14,052 --> 00:05:16,446 And when she returns, the husband says, 11 00:05:16,446 --> 00:05:18,187 "Honey, the cat is dead." 12 00:05:19,319 --> 00:05:20,929 And she says, 13 00:05:20,929 --> 00:05:23,235 "How can you tell me so abruptly like this?" 14 00:05:23,235 --> 00:05:25,890 You have to ease me into bad news. 15 00:05:25,890 --> 00:05:30,765 Like, um, "Honey, the cat..." 16 00:05:30,765 --> 00:05:32,593 "he got on the roof. 17 00:05:32,593 --> 00:05:35,247 "And, uh, so..." 18 00:05:35,247 --> 00:05:36,988 Now... 19 00:05:36,988 --> 00:05:39,077 a few months later, 20 00:05:39,077 --> 00:05:41,210 the wife goes out of town again. 21 00:05:41,210 --> 00:05:42,777 And she returns 22 00:05:42,777 --> 00:05:45,083 and the husband greets her again. 23 00:05:45,083 --> 00:05:47,956 But this time, he learned his lesson. 24 00:05:47,956 --> 00:05:51,307 And as the wife comes through the door, he says, 25 00:05:51,307 --> 00:05:54,310 "Honey, your mom, she got on the roof." 26 00:06:26,516 --> 00:06:27,952 How did you get in here? 27 00:06:39,399 --> 00:06:41,139 - Nai Nai. - Billi! 28 00:06:54,283 --> 00:06:56,198 Huh? 29 00:06:56,198 --> 00:06:57,242 Oh. 30 00:07:56,084 --> 00:07:56,954 Eh? 31 00:08:09,314 --> 00:08:10,402 Okay. 32 00:08:10,402 --> 00:08:12,143 I love you, Nai Nai. 33 00:08:12,143 --> 00:08:14,798 I love you. I love you. 34 00:08:31,119 --> 00:08:32,120 For what month? 35 00:08:33,425 --> 00:08:35,645 For this month? May? 36 00:08:35,645 --> 00:08:37,734 And what happened to April? 37 00:08:37,734 --> 00:08:40,258 My mom says you didn't pay April yet. 38 00:08:42,870 --> 00:08:44,306 You know, if you moved out right now, 39 00:08:44,306 --> 00:08:45,873 we could literally double the rent? 40 00:08:51,835 --> 00:08:54,098 So what, you're broke again? 41 00:08:54,098 --> 00:08:56,013 Are you always going to live like this? 42 00:08:56,013 --> 00:08:57,537 Poor but sexy, I hope so. 43 00:08:59,016 --> 00:09:00,931 Why you not try to save, huh? 44 00:09:00,931 --> 00:09:03,238 You should change your expensive lifestyle. 45 00:09:03,238 --> 00:09:04,935 Mom, if you're gonna give me shit 46 00:09:04,935 --> 00:09:06,284 every time I come home, 47 00:09:06,284 --> 00:09:08,112 I'm not coming home anymore. 48 00:09:08,112 --> 00:09:09,766 Lower your voice. Dad's sleeping. 49 00:09:09,766 --> 00:09:12,073 Sleeping? It's 6:00 p.m. What's wrong with him? 50 00:09:12,073 --> 00:09:14,205 Nothing. He's just tired. 51 00:09:14,205 --> 00:09:15,772 Is he okay? 52 00:09:15,772 --> 00:09:17,557 He's fine, we're just busy that's all. 53 00:09:20,124 --> 00:09:22,170 Busy with what? What's going on? 54 00:09:24,433 --> 00:09:27,218 Hao Hao's getting married, so we have to go to China. 55 00:09:27,218 --> 00:09:29,786 What? Since when? 56 00:09:29,786 --> 00:09:32,267 Hasn't he like just started dating that girl? 57 00:09:32,267 --> 00:09:34,182 You don't need to go. 58 00:09:34,182 --> 00:09:35,662 No one's expecting you to go. 59 00:09:36,924 --> 00:09:39,056 I mean, he's my only cousin. 60 00:09:39,056 --> 00:09:40,797 Don't you think I should be there? 61 00:09:43,147 --> 00:09:45,672 Okay, okay. 62 00:09:45,672 --> 00:09:47,369 Do you think he knocked her up? 63 00:09:52,592 --> 00:09:54,594 How many wontons you want? 64 00:09:54,594 --> 00:09:57,379 - Five. - Five? That's not enough. 65 00:09:57,379 --> 00:09:58,946 Make a dozen then. 66 00:10:00,077 --> 00:10:01,078 Ten's good. 67 00:10:02,384 --> 00:10:04,212 - Okay. 68 00:10:21,533 --> 00:10:23,057 What's wrong, Dad? 69 00:10:23,057 --> 00:10:24,232 Nothing. 70 00:10:27,061 --> 00:10:28,845 You and mom got in a fight? 71 00:10:32,501 --> 00:10:33,633 You've been drinking? 72 00:10:38,246 --> 00:10:40,596 Please tell me what's going on. 73 00:10:40,596 --> 00:10:42,206 You're scaring me. 74 00:10:45,993 --> 00:10:47,429 Something's going on. 75 00:10:48,691 --> 00:10:50,127 Just tell me what's going on. 76 00:10:54,697 --> 00:10:56,394 Your Nai Nai's dying. 77 00:10:59,354 --> 00:11:02,662 She has a stage four lung cancer. 78 00:11:02,662 --> 00:11:05,577 The doctor says she has three months. 79 00:11:05,577 --> 00:11:07,667 Could be faster, you never know. 80 00:11:17,502 --> 00:11:19,200 - I need to call her. - You can't do that. 81 00:11:19,200 --> 00:11:21,289 - I need to go see her. - Can't do that. 82 00:11:22,638 --> 00:11:25,032 She doesn't know. 83 00:11:25,032 --> 00:11:27,904 The family thinks it's better not to tell her. 84 00:11:27,904 --> 00:11:29,471 So you can't say anything. 85 00:11:31,995 --> 00:11:34,171 I don't understand. 86 00:11:34,171 --> 00:11:37,479 She doesn't have a lot of time left, she should know, right? 87 00:11:37,479 --> 00:11:40,003 There's nothing they can do. 88 00:11:40,003 --> 00:11:43,267 So everyone decided it's better not to tell her. 89 00:11:45,052 --> 00:11:46,183 Why is that better? 90 00:11:46,183 --> 00:11:49,099 Chinese people have saying: 91 00:11:49,099 --> 00:11:51,711 "When people get cancer, they die." 92 00:11:51,711 --> 00:11:55,497 It's not the cancer that kills them, it's the fear. 93 00:11:59,544 --> 00:12:02,373 Okay, when were you guys gonna tell me this? 94 00:12:02,373 --> 00:12:04,898 How could you let me find out like this? 95 00:12:04,898 --> 00:12:07,552 How should I have told you? "Oh, your grandma's on the roof"? 96 00:12:10,817 --> 00:12:13,036 W-What about the wedding? 97 00:12:13,036 --> 00:12:17,171 The wedding is an excuse, so everyone can go see her. 98 00:12:17,171 --> 00:12:20,870 We leave first thing in the morning. 99 00:12:20,870 --> 00:12:22,393 I need to go. 100 00:12:22,393 --> 00:12:24,439 - Billi... - I need to go. 101 00:12:24,439 --> 00:12:27,224 Everyone thinks it "s better if you don" t. 102 00:12:27,224 --> 00:12:30,837 Look at you. You can't hide your emotions. 103 00:12:30,837 --> 00:12:33,622 If you go, Nai Nai will find out right away. 104 00:15:20,354 --> 00:15:21,964 - Billi! - Huh? 105 00:16:14,016 --> 00:16:16,105 - Shoulda called first. 106 00:16:42,218 --> 00:16:43,089 Mmm-hmm. 107 00:17:14,990 --> 00:17:17,688 Stop fooling around. Oil is hot. 108 00:17:17,688 --> 00:17:18,950 Don't be mad, Mom. 109 00:17:21,736 --> 00:17:24,260 Where'd you get the money to buy a ticket? 110 00:17:24,260 --> 00:17:26,871 - Credit card, right? 111 00:17:26,871 --> 00:17:29,352 Mom, I'm fine. Look at my face. 112 00:17:29,352 --> 00:17:30,875 Look at my face, look at my face, look. 113 00:17:33,661 --> 00:17:34,705 Take to table. 114 00:19:29,690 --> 00:19:31,344 Hey. Billi. 115 00:22:36,485 --> 00:22:37,660 I know. 116 00:22:48,584 --> 00:22:50,717 - Billi... - Hmm? 117 00:23:18,266 --> 00:23:21,487 - Ah. 118 00:23:37,981 --> 00:23:38,895 Uh... 119 00:23:40,767 --> 00:23:41,637 Ah. 120 00:24:00,090 --> 00:24:02,005 Ah. Okay. 121 00:24:33,776 --> 00:24:34,777 Ah. 122 00:24:45,788 --> 00:24:46,920 Thank you. 123 00:25:43,716 --> 00:25:44,934 Ha! Ho! 124 00:25:48,198 --> 00:25:50,070 Ha! Ha! 125 00:25:50,070 --> 00:25:51,332 Ha! Ha! 126 00:26:00,950 --> 00:26:01,864 Ha! Ha! 127 00:26:14,747 --> 00:26:16,357 Ha! Ha! 128 00:26:17,619 --> 00:26:19,012 Ha! Ha! 129 00:26:55,744 --> 00:26:57,572 Ha! Ha! 130 00:26:57,572 --> 00:26:58,834 Ha! Ha! 131 00:27:20,421 --> 00:27:21,552 Billi. 132 00:32:29,338 --> 00:32:32,341 So what "s goin" on with the fellowship? 133 00:32:32,341 --> 00:32:33,429 Nothing. 134 00:32:35,214 --> 00:32:37,303 Oh, you still haven't heard anything? 135 00:32:37,303 --> 00:32:38,217 No. 136 00:32:39,783 --> 00:32:41,176 Well, when are they gonna let you know? 137 00:32:41,176 --> 00:32:42,264 I don't know, Dad. 138 00:32:45,485 --> 00:32:47,139 How are you doing with money? 139 00:32:47,139 --> 00:32:48,705 I'm fine. 140 00:32:48,705 --> 00:32:50,620 - Can you afford this trip? - Yes, I'm fine. 141 00:32:52,100 --> 00:32:54,015 - You need help? - No, I'm fine. 142 00:33:11,467 --> 00:33:12,816 What is mei nu? 143 00:33:12,816 --> 00:33:15,036 - Uh, it means beauty. - Ah. 144 00:34:10,831 --> 00:34:12,093 - Hmm? 145 00:36:40,850 --> 00:36:42,591 Mmm? 146 00:38:25,825 --> 00:38:26,739 Mmm. 147 00:38:40,187 --> 00:38:41,275 - Huh? - Okay. 148 00:40:19,329 --> 00:40:21,331 What's that mean? 149 00:40:21,331 --> 00:40:23,421 They say you're a stock investment 150 00:40:23,421 --> 00:40:26,598 and you're gonna make us a lot of money. 151 00:40:26,598 --> 00:40:28,426 But I can't expect that from you, right? 152 00:40:28,426 --> 00:40:29,731 You're the losing stock. 153 00:41:19,999 --> 00:41:21,304 Mmm. 154 00:41:25,134 --> 00:41:26,875 Mom, that church is not representative 155 00:41:26,875 --> 00:41:28,616 of all America. 156 00:41:28,616 --> 00:41:31,576 We have a lot of problems. Guns, health care. 157 00:41:31,576 --> 00:41:32,707 If you think China's that good, 158 00:41:32,707 --> 00:41:33,795 why don't you move here? 159 00:45:14,450 --> 00:45:16,017 - What happened? - I don't know. 160 00:45:23,633 --> 00:45:26,898 Hey! Billi, it's the wrong way! 161 00:45:26,898 --> 00:45:29,422 He says it's fine. 162 00:45:29,422 --> 00:45:31,554 - We have to go around. - He says it's fine! 163 00:45:33,121 --> 00:45:35,036 Watch it, watch it, watch it. 164 00:45:36,646 --> 00:45:37,691 Which way are we going? 165 00:45:41,216 --> 00:45:42,870 Dad, do you know where we're going? 166 00:45:42,870 --> 00:45:44,872 - This way. - My umbrella... 167 00:45:49,311 --> 00:45:50,617 - Is this the right way? - Yes. 168 00:45:50,617 --> 00:45:52,880 Are you sure? 169 00:46:06,633 --> 00:46:08,896 - Ma? 170 00:46:08,896 --> 00:46:09,767 Huh? 171 00:46:40,449 --> 00:46:41,537 Nai Nai... 172 00:47:42,511 --> 00:47:44,600 Visit from America? 173 00:47:44,600 --> 00:47:46,689 I went to school in the UK for many years. 174 00:47:46,689 --> 00:47:48,039 Oh, that's cool. 175 00:47:48,039 --> 00:47:49,170 Where do you live? 176 00:47:49,170 --> 00:47:50,432 Uh, I'm in New York. 177 00:47:50,432 --> 00:47:51,869 New York. 178 00:47:51,869 --> 00:47:53,348 I always wanted to visit New York. 179 00:47:53,348 --> 00:47:55,263 It's a very beautiful city. 180 00:47:55,263 --> 00:47:56,874 Yeah, it's very beautiful. Uh, question: 181 00:47:56,874 --> 00:47:58,832 Do you know about my grandma's condition? 182 00:48:09,756 --> 00:48:10,757 Uh... 183 00:48:25,815 --> 00:48:26,860 Ma! 184 00:48:29,341 --> 00:48:30,820 How bad is she? 185 00:48:30,820 --> 00:48:32,779 You can tell me the truth. 186 00:48:32,779 --> 00:48:35,086 The cancer is quite advanced. 187 00:48:35,086 --> 00:48:36,348 Shouldn't we tell her? 188 00:48:38,132 --> 00:48:39,873 In her situation, 189 00:48:39,873 --> 00:48:42,267 most families in China would choose not to tell her. 190 00:48:43,659 --> 00:48:45,444 When my grandmother had cancer, 191 00:48:45,444 --> 00:48:47,098 my family didn't tell her. 192 00:48:49,404 --> 00:48:51,711 Isn't it wrong to lie? 193 00:48:51,711 --> 00:48:54,148 I mean, if it's for good, it's not really a lie. 194 00:48:54,148 --> 00:48:56,324 I mean, it's still a lie. 195 00:48:56,324 --> 00:48:58,152 It's a good lie. 196 00:48:59,501 --> 00:49:01,416 How's your grandmother? 197 00:49:01,416 --> 00:49:04,202 She passed away, a few months after she was diagnosed. 198 00:50:15,621 --> 00:50:17,666 Illegal. How do you say "illegal"? 199 00:51:37,964 --> 00:51:39,966 Ellen! 200 00:53:15,322 --> 00:53:17,368 Mom, can we not do this right now, please? 201 00:53:18,804 --> 00:53:20,849 - Mom! 202 00:53:20,849 --> 00:53:22,286 Can we not right now? 203 00:53:25,071 --> 00:53:26,203 Just leave him alone. 204 00:53:39,520 --> 00:53:42,610 Nai Nai should not be organizing this wedding. 205 00:53:42,610 --> 00:53:45,526 Well, if she enjoys it, then just let her do it. 206 00:53:45,526 --> 00:53:47,093 She's sick. 207 00:53:47,093 --> 00:53:49,095 She should be resting or in a hospital. 208 00:53:49,095 --> 00:53:50,575 Not stressing about a fake wedding. 209 00:53:50,575 --> 00:53:52,403 You really don't know your Nai Nai. 210 00:53:52,403 --> 00:53:55,580 You know she enjoys bossing everyone around. 211 00:53:55,580 --> 00:53:57,190 Makes her feel important. 212 00:53:58,365 --> 00:53:59,801 Makes her feel in control. 213 00:53:59,801 --> 00:54:01,586 - Mom. - It's true! 214 00:54:01,586 --> 00:54:04,806 That's why she hated to stay in America in our house. 215 00:54:04,806 --> 00:54:08,027 You know? Because she could not tell anyone what to do. 216 00:54:08,027 --> 00:54:10,682 Whatever I do, never good enough for her. 217 00:54:10,682 --> 00:54:14,163 But she can't say anything, because it was my house. 218 00:54:14,163 --> 00:54:15,426 Mom, stop! 219 00:54:15,426 --> 00:54:16,775 What? 220 00:54:18,472 --> 00:54:21,040 You have always had issues with her, but right now... 221 00:54:21,040 --> 00:54:23,347 I don't have a problem with her. She's the one that have a problem with me! 222 00:54:23,347 --> 00:54:26,219 She "s dying. Can" t you be a little more sensitive? 223 00:54:26,219 --> 00:54:28,352 What you want from me? To scream and cry like you? 224 00:54:35,010 --> 00:54:37,752 You know, when my father died, I also very sad. 225 00:54:37,752 --> 00:54:39,798 But I don't act like you. 226 00:54:41,930 --> 00:54:44,106 When I went back to China for the funeral, 227 00:54:44,106 --> 00:54:45,934 everybody was watching me. 228 00:54:45,934 --> 00:54:48,459 They all were expecting me to fall apart. 229 00:54:48,459 --> 00:54:50,548 And they think if I don't cry, I don't love my father. 230 00:54:50,548 --> 00:54:52,637 No one's asking you to cry! 231 00:55:03,212 --> 00:55:04,344 I don't like, you know, 232 00:55:04,344 --> 00:55:06,477 put all my emotion on display. 233 00:55:06,477 --> 00:55:08,305 Like I'm in the zoo. 234 00:55:10,219 --> 00:55:13,571 But in here, if you don't cry, you don't put a show, 235 00:55:13,571 --> 00:55:15,616 they think that you don't love your family. 236 00:55:15,616 --> 00:55:18,619 You know, in here, they even hire some professional criers. 237 00:55:18,619 --> 00:55:20,012 Just to show how sad they are. 238 00:55:20,012 --> 00:55:21,796 It's just so ridiculous. 239 00:55:21,796 --> 00:55:22,841 I hate that. 240 00:56:25,164 --> 00:56:27,558 Pour, just pour. Yeah, pour, very good. 241 00:56:43,617 --> 00:56:44,662 Mmm. 242 00:56:45,967 --> 00:56:47,665 - Hey. 243 00:56:47,665 --> 00:56:48,579 Hey. 244 01:00:03,817 --> 01:00:06,341 Hey, this looks so familiar. 245 01:00:08,387 --> 01:00:09,910 Do you remember that house? 246 01:00:09,910 --> 01:00:11,695 You used to love to play in the garden. 247 01:00:11,695 --> 01:00:13,044 Where is it? 248 01:01:12,233 --> 01:01:13,974 - Dad? - Hmm? 249 01:01:17,021 --> 01:01:18,718 - Are you smoking? - Hmm? 250 01:01:19,937 --> 01:01:22,243 Uh, I thought you said you quit. 251 01:01:22,243 --> 01:01:23,723 I did. 252 01:01:23,723 --> 01:01:24,811 I will. 253 01:01:33,298 --> 01:01:34,865 Go back to bed, Billi. 254 01:01:41,436 --> 01:01:43,177 What're you guys talking about? 255 01:01:43,177 --> 01:01:44,091 Nothing. 256 01:02:03,023 --> 01:02:04,633 Billi. 257 01:03:50,957 --> 01:03:53,177 - Mom? - Yeah? 258 01:03:53,177 --> 01:03:55,266 I want to stay in China 259 01:03:55,266 --> 01:03:57,659 and help take care of Nai Nai. 260 01:03:57,659 --> 01:03:59,357 What? 261 01:03:59,357 --> 01:04:01,489 You stay here, to do what? 262 01:04:01,489 --> 01:04:03,448 You can't cook, you can't clean. 263 01:04:13,458 --> 01:04:16,113 I'll figure it out, Mom. 264 01:04:16,113 --> 01:04:18,985 So you just stay here. And what? 265 01:04:18,985 --> 01:04:20,378 Wait for her to die? 266 01:04:21,770 --> 01:04:23,381 What about the fellowship? 267 01:04:23,381 --> 01:04:25,513 Just forget about it, huh? 268 01:04:25,513 --> 01:04:27,254 You're 30 years old, 269 01:04:27,254 --> 01:04:30,736 but you can stop your life and stay here? 270 01:04:30,736 --> 01:04:33,217 And every day she has to look at you, 271 01:04:33,217 --> 01:04:34,871 with that sad-looking face? 272 01:04:34,871 --> 01:04:37,264 That's not nice for anybody, right? 273 01:04:40,137 --> 01:04:43,967 You know, one of the few good memories of my childhood 274 01:04:43,967 --> 01:04:46,317 were those summers at Nai Nai's. 275 01:04:46,317 --> 01:04:47,709 They had that garden. 276 01:04:47,709 --> 01:04:50,625 Ye Ye and I would catch dragonflies. 277 01:04:52,149 --> 01:04:54,325 And then we just moved to the States. 278 01:04:54,325 --> 01:04:57,154 Everything was different. Everyone was gone. 279 01:04:57,154 --> 01:05:00,287 And it was just the three of us. 280 01:05:05,858 --> 01:05:08,121 I know it was hard. 281 01:05:08,121 --> 01:05:09,644 It was hard for us too. 282 01:05:11,472 --> 01:05:15,520 I wanted to believe that it was a good thing, 283 01:05:17,739 --> 01:05:21,700 but all I saw was fear in your eyes. 284 01:05:21,700 --> 01:05:25,486 And I was confused and scared constantly 285 01:05:25,486 --> 01:05:28,315 because you never told me what was going on. 286 01:05:33,886 --> 01:05:36,193 And then Ye Ye died. 287 01:05:36,193 --> 01:05:37,934 You didn't even tell me he was sick. 288 01:05:39,326 --> 01:05:41,502 So it felt like he just 289 01:05:41,502 --> 01:05:42,721 vanished suddenly. 290 01:05:44,505 --> 01:05:46,420 And you wouldn't even let me go to his funeral. 291 01:05:46,420 --> 01:05:47,813 You were at school. 292 01:05:47,813 --> 01:05:49,597 We didn't want you to miss school. 293 01:05:49,597 --> 01:05:51,382 We did what we thought was best for you. 294 01:05:51,382 --> 01:05:52,774 But I never saw him again. 295 01:05:54,820 --> 01:05:56,648 And every time I came back to China, 296 01:05:56,648 --> 01:05:58,693 he just... he just wasn't there anymore. 297 01:06:00,478 --> 01:06:03,524 And I come back and he's just gone. 298 01:06:05,439 --> 01:06:09,443 The house is gone, A Die's gone, 299 01:06:09,443 --> 01:06:12,620 our Beijing home is gone, and soon she'll be gone, too. 300 01:07:36,487 --> 01:07:37,618 Billi! 301 01:11:57,704 --> 01:11:59,227 Does everyone know? 302 01:11:59,227 --> 01:12:01,882 I think most people don't know. 303 01:12:01,882 --> 01:12:03,493 But I'm not sure. 304 01:15:34,704 --> 01:15:35,966 Thank you. 305 01:15:41,188 --> 01:15:42,886 I'm sorry. 306 01:15:42,886 --> 01:15:44,540 Sorry, how do you say congratulations? Dad? 307 01:15:46,716 --> 01:15:48,979 - Thank you. 308 01:22:50,052 --> 01:22:50,966 Hey. 309 01:23:05,284 --> 01:23:06,242 Hey, hey, hey. 310 01:32:12,352 --> 01:32:13,440 Ha! 311 01:32:16,052 --> 01:32:17,053 Ha! 312 01:32:33,983 --> 01:32:34,984 Ha!