1 00:00:00,933 --> 00:00:02,740 Previously on The Good Doctor... 2 00:00:02,780 --> 00:00:04,090 I'm Charlotte Lukaitis. 3 00:00:04,130 --> 00:00:06,486 - Charlie. You are on my team. - Yes! 4 00:00:06,536 --> 00:00:09,400 Positive affirmations are empowering for people with ASD. 5 00:00:09,440 --> 00:00:10,570 My autism is awesome. 6 00:00:10,610 --> 00:00:12,400 We should prep a bolus dose of TPA. 7 00:00:12,440 --> 00:00:14,270 No, we should not do that. 8 00:00:14,310 --> 00:00:17,093 You ordered a nurse to prep an unindicated and very risky medication. 9 00:00:17,133 --> 00:00:18,529 I didn't order her. I was just making a suggestion. 10 00:00:18,553 --> 00:00:19,613 Get out! 11 00:00:19,653 --> 00:00:22,443 I believe your intense curiosity 12 00:00:22,483 --> 00:00:24,240 and attention to organization 13 00:00:24,280 --> 00:00:26,720 will one day make you an excellent pathologist. 14 00:00:26,760 --> 00:00:28,330 I don't want to be a pathologist. 15 00:00:28,370 --> 00:00:30,500 I just want to be a surgeon like you. 16 00:00:30,550 --> 00:00:31,940 You're nothing like me. 17 00:00:31,980 --> 00:00:34,680 So much of my life in Orthodox world. 18 00:00:34,730 --> 00:00:37,380 I still don't feel like I know what I'm doing. 19 00:00:37,420 --> 00:00:38,990 I have so little figured out, 20 00:00:39,030 --> 00:00:40,560 except that I'm really into you. 21 00:00:42,300 --> 00:00:44,870 - Mom? - Hey, Audie. 22 00:00:44,910 --> 00:00:47,260 But what are you doing here? Are you okay? 23 00:00:47,300 --> 00:00:50,650 Oh, I'm just here for a drug trial. For my hyperthyroid. 24 00:00:50,700 --> 00:00:52,870 You heard they're calling a board meeting tomorrow? 25 00:00:52,920 --> 00:00:54,960 - Can you cover for me? - I wish I could cover it. 26 00:00:55,010 --> 00:00:57,050 It would be preferable to taking my mom shopping. 27 00:00:57,100 --> 00:00:58,230 I'll take her shopping. 28 00:00:58,270 --> 00:00:59,490 Thank you for your help. 29 00:00:59,530 --> 00:01:00,750 Oh, no. Happy to help. 30 00:01:00,790 --> 00:01:02,580 See, and here you are, stuck with me. 31 00:01:02,620 --> 00:01:04,540 Oh! No. 32 00:01:04,580 --> 00:01:06,710 You have been very sweet. 33 00:01:25,210 --> 00:01:26,690 - Should we just... - No. 34 00:01:26,730 --> 00:01:29,080 Can't we just check on him? It's been ten minutes. 35 00:01:30,960 --> 00:01:33,350 - Nine. - I'm rounding up. 36 00:01:33,390 --> 00:01:36,660 You shouldn't. This process is tiring and difficult. 37 00:01:36,700 --> 00:01:38,830 But once we finish, we will all be happier 38 00:01:38,880 --> 00:01:40,660 and more well-rested. 39 00:01:43,140 --> 00:01:45,422 How does the crying not bother you? 40 00:01:49,410 --> 00:01:51,190 In prehistoric times, 41 00:01:51,240 --> 00:01:53,110 when infants awoke in the night 42 00:01:53,150 --> 00:01:54,540 and didn't see their parents, 43 00:01:54,590 --> 00:01:57,550 it could mean they had been killed by wild animals 44 00:01:57,590 --> 00:01:58,810 or competing tribes. 45 00:01:58,850 --> 00:02:00,640 Steve's cries are designed by nature 46 00:02:00,680 --> 00:02:02,550 to alert other adults to take care of him. 47 00:02:02,600 --> 00:02:03,640 Mm-hmm. 48 00:02:04,470 --> 00:02:05,526 How much longer? 49 00:02:07,300 --> 00:02:08,430 Ten seconds. 50 00:02:09,170 --> 00:02:10,910 Nine, eight... 51 00:02:10,950 --> 00:02:13,740 seven, six, five, four, three, two, one. 52 00:02:15,170 --> 00:02:17,040 Don't worry, Steve. Mommy's coming. 53 00:02:29,970 --> 00:02:31,100 Mm. 54 00:02:32,320 --> 00:02:33,370 Morning. 55 00:02:34,800 --> 00:02:36,240 Morning. 56 00:02:36,280 --> 00:02:37,720 That was fun. 57 00:02:39,304 --> 00:02:40,810 Yeah. 58 00:02:40,850 --> 00:02:41,940 Mm. 59 00:02:44,460 --> 00:02:46,160 I have to go, unfortunately. 60 00:02:48,966 --> 00:02:50,696 When's your first meeting? 61 00:02:56,236 --> 00:02:57,411 After this. 62 00:03:00,700 --> 00:03:02,050 I have a consult. 63 00:03:02,090 --> 00:03:03,740 No, Shaun, please stay. 64 00:03:05,526 --> 00:03:07,462 Sorry. I was, um... 65 00:03:09,010 --> 00:03:10,710 Sorry. 66 00:03:10,750 --> 00:03:12,400 I was just about to tell Shaun 67 00:03:12,450 --> 00:03:14,410 that he'll be working with Charlie Lukaitis today. 68 00:03:14,450 --> 00:03:16,540 No, I'm going to work with Dom. 69 00:03:16,580 --> 00:03:18,500 Charlie is disruptive and distracting. 70 00:03:18,540 --> 00:03:20,774 She should be failed out of this rotation. 71 00:03:20,799 --> 00:03:22,499 That's a harsh assessment, 72 00:03:22,524 --> 00:03:25,230 and one you can't make until she's completed her rotation. 73 00:03:25,940 --> 00:03:27,460 Then... 74 00:03:27,510 --> 00:03:29,680 I want to opt out of being a teaching attending. 75 00:03:29,730 --> 00:03:32,160 You can't do that, Shaun. This is a teaching hospital. 76 00:03:32,210 --> 00:03:33,530 You can't opt out. 77 00:03:33,555 --> 00:03:36,591 Well, actually, you can, but you lose access to the residents... 78 00:03:36,690 --> 00:03:37,860 Jordan, Kalu, Asher. 79 00:03:37,910 --> 00:03:39,340 I prefer to work alone. 80 00:03:39,390 --> 00:03:40,996 And you'd stick to simple surgeries. 81 00:03:41,110 --> 00:03:43,980 Lap choles, appendectomies, hernia repairs. 82 00:03:44,005 --> 00:03:46,918 Not to mention, you'd lose a third of your salary. 83 00:03:48,180 --> 00:03:49,570 I cannot teach her. 84 00:03:49,620 --> 00:03:52,530 She interrupts me, and when I point out her mistakes, 85 00:03:52,570 --> 00:03:54,360 she just argues with me. 86 00:03:54,400 --> 00:03:56,580 Well, why don't you stop pointing out her mistakes? 87 00:03:56,605 --> 00:03:58,435 Why don't you start 88 00:03:58,490 --> 00:04:00,307 pointing out things she does well? 89 00:04:00,670 --> 00:04:01,980 Why would I do that? 90 00:04:02,020 --> 00:04:04,081 Because when you criticize people, they feel bad, 91 00:04:04,106 --> 00:04:05,756 and that leads to arguments. 92 00:04:05,781 --> 00:04:08,351 And that leads to Charlie standing alone, mute in an elevator. 93 00:04:08,376 --> 00:04:10,206 And that leads to more meetings with us. 94 00:04:10,231 --> 00:04:13,451 I can't just let her mistakes go. 95 00:04:13,770 --> 00:04:16,860 So, how about you try a compliment sandwich? 96 00:04:16,900 --> 00:04:19,170 When you need to give negative feedback, 97 00:04:19,210 --> 00:04:20,952 stick it between layers of praise. 98 00:04:22,690 --> 00:04:24,247 Charlie... 99 00:04:24,900 --> 00:04:27,793 doesn't have two pieces of bread to work with. 100 00:04:29,470 --> 00:04:33,215 Then make it a compliment open-faced sandwich. 101 00:04:35,306 --> 00:04:36,843 Find the bread, Shaun. 102 00:04:43,215 --> 00:04:51,215 Synced & corrected by -robtor- www.addic7ed.com 103 00:04:51,240 --> 00:04:53,030 - Hi, honey. - Hey, you okay? 104 00:04:53,070 --> 00:04:54,850 Your door was closed when I left. 105 00:04:55,900 --> 00:04:57,900 I wasn't there. I, um... 106 00:04:59,020 --> 00:05:01,150 stayed over at Aaron's. 107 00:05:02,273 --> 00:05:04,493 You... s-slept over there? 108 00:05:04,518 --> 00:05:05,698 Yes. 109 00:05:05,723 --> 00:05:07,040 - Like... - Yes. 110 00:05:08,433 --> 00:05:10,419 I hope you don't have a problem with that. 111 00:05:11,260 --> 00:05:12,921 You're a grown woman. 112 00:05:13,260 --> 00:05:15,880 That decided to have sex with my co-president. 113 00:05:15,920 --> 00:05:17,700 Sure. That's... fine. 114 00:05:18,970 --> 00:05:19,970 Great. 115 00:05:21,140 --> 00:05:23,100 It was amazing, Audrey. 116 00:05:23,140 --> 00:05:24,840 I mean, for a man his age, 117 00:05:24,880 --> 00:05:29,670 you cannot believe the stamina and the decisiveness. 118 00:05:29,720 --> 00:05:30,850 That's great, Mom. 119 00:05:30,890 --> 00:05:32,200 It's just sex. 120 00:05:32,240 --> 00:05:34,359 I'll be going home after the study is over. 121 00:05:35,393 --> 00:05:39,322 But as sex goes, this is pretty high quality. 122 00:05:44,083 --> 00:05:45,083 Where did you fall? 123 00:05:46,210 --> 00:05:47,664 In the shower. 124 00:05:48,170 --> 00:05:49,910 I hate how old that makes me sound. 125 00:05:49,950 --> 00:05:52,220 Don't worry, you also lookold. 126 00:05:52,260 --> 00:05:53,920 Oh, thank you for that. 127 00:05:54,830 --> 00:05:57,920 BP's 100 over 70, heart rate 75 BPMs. 128 00:05:57,960 --> 00:06:00,360 Hip bone's swollen and deformed. 129 00:06:00,400 --> 00:06:01,700 Does this hurt? 130 00:06:01,750 --> 00:06:03,490 Ow! Ow! 131 00:06:03,530 --> 00:06:06,400 You have a fractured and dislocated hip. 132 00:06:06,450 --> 00:06:07,811 Oh, no. 133 00:06:07,851 --> 00:06:09,670 Don't worry. We'll get him to the OR right away. 134 00:06:09,710 --> 00:06:11,060 Your dad will be fine. 135 00:06:13,153 --> 00:06:14,524 He's my fiance. 136 00:06:18,393 --> 00:06:20,447 Then your fiance will be fine. 137 00:06:25,250 --> 00:06:26,950 Thank you. 138 00:06:26,990 --> 00:06:28,950 Hi! I know the last time we worked together 139 00:06:28,990 --> 00:06:30,820 could have gone better. 140 00:06:30,860 --> 00:06:33,844 I always quote the great Taylor Swift at important moments, 141 00:06:33,894 --> 00:06:35,960 - so let me just say... - Don't do that. 142 00:06:36,000 --> 00:06:37,960 I promise I won't interrupt you today. 143 00:06:38,000 --> 00:06:39,841 I'll work extra hard to be helpful. 144 00:06:43,583 --> 00:06:45,363 What were you doing when you first started throwing up? 145 00:06:45,410 --> 00:06:46,810 Walking with Mom. 146 00:06:46,856 --> 00:06:48,206 We weren't overdoing it or anything. 147 00:06:48,231 --> 00:06:50,644 We walk together every morning before school. 148 00:06:51,199 --> 00:06:52,419 It's our special time. 149 00:06:52,444 --> 00:06:54,234 That's awesome. Do you know Mirna Valerio? 150 00:06:54,259 --> 00:06:57,219 She's a large-bodied woman who runs ultramarathons. 151 00:06:57,410 --> 00:06:58,460 You could work your way up to that. 152 00:06:58,500 --> 00:06:59,540 Or just marathons. 153 00:06:59,590 --> 00:07:01,279 That wasn't an interruption. 154 00:07:02,550 --> 00:07:04,550 It was... 155 00:07:04,590 --> 00:07:06,680 good that you did not interrupt me, 156 00:07:06,730 --> 00:07:08,990 but you did not need to tell that story. 157 00:07:10,290 --> 00:07:13,650 Although, it was not completely irrelevant. 158 00:07:13,950 --> 00:07:16,910 With the fever and white count, I thought she had a UTI. 159 00:07:18,480 --> 00:07:20,170 Lucy, please lie down. 160 00:07:25,700 --> 00:07:27,400 Take a deep breath. 161 00:07:29,400 --> 00:07:30,675 Positive Murphy sign. 162 00:07:30,715 --> 00:07:32,602 And it was spotted by Dr. Murphy. So cool. 163 00:07:32,627 --> 00:07:34,412 It wasn't named after Dr. Murphy, though. 164 00:07:34,533 --> 00:07:36,713 It is, in fact, named after Dr. Murphy. 165 00:07:36,738 --> 00:07:38,438 - He just wasn't me. - It's still cool. 166 00:07:38,463 --> 00:07:40,513 There's nothing cool about it, 167 00:07:40,670 --> 00:07:42,330 since it means Lucy's gallbladder is inflamed 168 00:07:42,370 --> 00:07:43,850 and will need to be removed. 169 00:07:43,890 --> 00:07:46,491 Why would she be having trouble with her gallbladder? 170 00:07:46,539 --> 00:07:48,910 Probably because she's morbidly obese. 171 00:07:51,416 --> 00:07:52,546 But don't worry, 172 00:07:52,571 --> 00:07:53,881 we do the surgery every day. 173 00:07:54,030 --> 00:07:56,167 Not on teenagers, though. 174 00:08:00,910 --> 00:08:03,040 I shouldn't have assumed. 175 00:08:03,090 --> 00:08:05,440 Placing second guidewire. 176 00:08:05,480 --> 00:08:07,790 But are we all just going to ignore how gross this is? 177 00:08:07,830 --> 00:08:10,090 I mean, he's old enough to be her grandfather. 178 00:08:10,140 --> 00:08:11,862 Lots of people think it's gross that you and I are together. 179 00:08:11,912 --> 00:08:13,620 Yes, but we're actually in love. 180 00:08:13,660 --> 00:08:15,270 Okay? She's gold-digging. 181 00:08:15,320 --> 00:08:18,670 - Another assumption. - A deduction, actually. 182 00:08:18,710 --> 00:08:21,580 If he's not loaded, why would she be with him? 183 00:08:21,630 --> 00:08:23,060 Also, I found her Instagram. 184 00:08:23,110 --> 00:08:24,800 You should see the hotel they stayed at in Baja. 185 00:08:24,850 --> 00:08:27,980 And they've been engaged for a year, but no wedding website. 186 00:08:28,020 --> 00:08:29,368 He's clearly stalling, 187 00:08:29,408 --> 00:08:32,420 trying to have as much sex as he can before tossing her. 188 00:08:32,460 --> 00:08:34,250 - He's 74. - Yeah. 189 00:08:34,290 --> 00:08:36,120 And a man. 190 00:08:36,160 --> 00:08:38,690 Implanting primary FNS screw. 191 00:08:38,730 --> 00:08:40,820 If she's after his money and he's after her youth, 192 00:08:40,860 --> 00:08:42,470 then they're both getting something out of it. 193 00:08:44,300 --> 00:08:46,009 Tightening locking screw. 194 00:08:48,130 --> 00:08:50,680 Dissecting the gallbladder off the liver. 195 00:08:51,800 --> 00:08:54,500 Processed foods, sugary drinks, schools dropping PE... 196 00:08:54,525 --> 00:08:57,135 No wonder there's an epidemic of childhood obesity. 197 00:08:57,169 --> 00:09:00,349 Weight is a bad proxy for health, actually. BMI, too. 198 00:09:00,374 --> 00:09:02,544 It doesn't take into account muscle mass or metabolic... 199 00:09:02,569 --> 00:09:04,099 Excuse me. What are you doing? 200 00:09:04,126 --> 00:09:06,696 Oh, I, um... I-I asked Charlie 201 00:09:06,721 --> 00:09:08,305 to learn the tools by laying them out. 202 00:09:08,330 --> 00:09:11,620 Laparoscopic instruments go on the left, 203 00:09:11,645 --> 00:09:13,215 then clamps, scissors, retractors, and sutures. 204 00:09:13,240 --> 00:09:14,810 You have done the opposite. 205 00:09:17,016 --> 00:09:20,502 You... did lay them out, though. 206 00:09:21,950 --> 00:09:23,380 Thank you. 207 00:09:23,496 --> 00:09:26,406 One thing, though. Shaming people who are overweight, 208 00:09:26,473 --> 00:09:28,483 which, sorry, Shaun, you kind of did 209 00:09:28,508 --> 00:09:29,728 with that "morbidly obese" comment, 210 00:09:29,753 --> 00:09:31,233 can actually lead to overeating. 211 00:09:31,440 --> 00:09:34,057 I was stating a medical fact. 212 00:09:34,263 --> 00:09:36,573 Ultrasonic coagulator. Starting the... 213 00:09:36,598 --> 00:09:38,208 But if your fact made her feel ashamed, 214 00:09:38,233 --> 00:09:39,453 - then you... - You inter... 215 00:09:41,400 --> 00:09:43,880 Charlie, you did a good job 216 00:09:43,930 --> 00:09:46,150 when you were not interrupting me earlier. 217 00:09:46,190 --> 00:09:47,670 Thank you. 218 00:09:47,710 --> 00:09:48,890 But you did not do a good job 219 00:09:48,930 --> 00:09:50,590 when you were interrupting me just now. 220 00:09:50,630 --> 00:09:52,533 Oh, I just thought we were talking at the same time. 221 00:09:52,558 --> 00:09:55,175 But you are doing a good job right now 222 00:09:55,200 --> 00:09:56,761 because you are not interrupting... 223 00:09:56,786 --> 00:09:58,452 It's mostly I'm completing your train of thought, which helps. 224 00:09:58,477 --> 00:10:00,120 Okay, I am running out of bread. 225 00:10:04,793 --> 00:10:06,273 Shaun. 226 00:10:06,298 --> 00:10:08,908 Her liver has yellow diffuse deposits and fibrosis. 227 00:10:10,300 --> 00:10:11,970 She has advanced fatty liver. 228 00:10:13,300 --> 00:10:14,700 If this progresses, 229 00:10:14,740 --> 00:10:17,033 she will need a liver transplant or she will die. 230 00:10:22,490 --> 00:10:25,270 It may take a few months to regain full mobility, 231 00:10:25,320 --> 00:10:27,527 but that shouldn't stop you from walking down the aisle. 232 00:10:28,320 --> 00:10:29,821 Thank you so much, Doctor. 233 00:10:32,710 --> 00:10:34,060 So, how'd you two meet? 234 00:10:34,085 --> 00:10:37,475 Well, we needed some legal work done at the school 235 00:10:37,500 --> 00:10:39,640 where I teach seventh grade English, 236 00:10:39,665 --> 00:10:42,795 and somehow, a big fancy litigator 237 00:10:42,820 --> 00:10:43,990 took us on pro bono. 238 00:10:44,015 --> 00:10:45,755 - Not that fancy. - No. Fancy. 239 00:10:45,900 --> 00:10:47,589 And very modest. 240 00:10:48,160 --> 00:10:50,990 I had, uh, lost my wife, Julie, to COVID 241 00:10:51,250 --> 00:10:53,390 a couple of years before and... 242 00:10:53,430 --> 00:10:54,679 Well, I was a mess. 243 00:10:54,704 --> 00:10:56,884 I certainly never thought I could fall in love again. 244 00:10:57,130 --> 00:10:59,650 Neither of us expected this to happen. 245 00:10:59,700 --> 00:11:01,570 But we're real glad it did. 246 00:11:01,610 --> 00:11:02,854 It's a beautiful story. 247 00:11:05,667 --> 00:11:06,847 When's the big day? 248 00:11:09,270 --> 00:11:10,987 Hey, are you okay? 249 00:11:11,020 --> 00:11:12,614 Yeah, it's just my stomach thing. 250 00:11:13,540 --> 00:11:16,020 Uh, we're just waiting for Scott 251 00:11:16,060 --> 00:11:18,280 to finish converting to Judaism. 252 00:11:18,320 --> 00:11:20,630 I'm sure you know how long that process can be, Dr. Wolke. 253 00:11:20,680 --> 00:11:21,831 You're Jewish, right? 254 00:11:22,693 --> 00:11:23,693 No. 255 00:11:24,590 --> 00:11:26,640 Oh, I-I'm sorry, I... 256 00:11:27,200 --> 00:11:28,338 I assumed... 257 00:11:31,860 --> 00:11:32,990 I feel sick. 258 00:11:33,040 --> 00:11:34,120 Ronit? 259 00:11:36,430 --> 00:11:37,430 Ronit. 260 00:11:39,750 --> 00:11:41,540 - Look at me. - Ronit! 261 00:11:42,429 --> 00:11:43,559 Crash cart! 262 00:11:47,719 --> 00:11:49,849 Stomach and duodenum are normal. 263 00:11:50,050 --> 00:11:52,028 Are you ready to admit you're wrong about them? 264 00:11:52,920 --> 00:11:54,750 Fine. They're in love. 265 00:11:54,800 --> 00:11:56,540 But why not just peacefully live out 266 00:11:56,580 --> 00:11:58,100 his golden years together? 267 00:11:58,140 --> 00:11:59,930 Why is she making him jump through all these hoops to get married? 268 00:11:59,980 --> 00:12:01,850 Does he really want to spend the rest of his years 269 00:12:01,890 --> 00:12:03,280 studying the Book of Ruth? 270 00:12:03,305 --> 00:12:04,995 She's not forcing him to do anything. 271 00:12:05,020 --> 00:12:06,110 He wants to make her happy. 272 00:12:06,135 --> 00:12:07,525 Yeah, by pretending to care about 273 00:12:07,550 --> 00:12:09,210 something he doesn't actually care about. 274 00:12:09,235 --> 00:12:11,455 If he wants to stay married, I also recommend pretending 275 00:12:11,480 --> 00:12:13,650 to care about every other thing she cares about. 276 00:12:13,675 --> 00:12:15,235 Transverse colon is normal. 277 00:12:15,263 --> 00:12:16,873 Also, it doesn't hurt for a man of his age 278 00:12:16,898 --> 00:12:18,858 to have a younger medical proxy who cares about him. 279 00:12:18,883 --> 00:12:20,933 So just give her power of attorney. 280 00:12:21,070 --> 00:12:23,860 Yeah, maybe in a ceremony. She could wear white. 281 00:12:23,885 --> 00:12:25,535 - They could exchange rings. - What's that called? 282 00:12:25,560 --> 00:12:27,541 Why are you so invested in this? 283 00:12:27,570 --> 00:12:28,830 Why are you so cynical? 284 00:12:29,163 --> 00:12:30,433 Guys. 285 00:12:31,140 --> 00:12:33,111 Left ovary and pelvic organs. 286 00:12:40,670 --> 00:12:42,630 Dr. Glassman and Dr. Lim 287 00:12:42,670 --> 00:12:44,410 suggested the compliment sandwich, 288 00:12:44,450 --> 00:12:45,800 but it is very distracting 289 00:12:45,850 --> 00:12:47,540 having to find two things Charlie is doing right 290 00:12:47,590 --> 00:12:49,335 just so I can correct her mistakes. 291 00:12:49,890 --> 00:12:51,940 There are a lot of them. 292 00:12:51,980 --> 00:12:53,882 What do we do in sleep training when Steve cries? 293 00:12:55,640 --> 00:12:57,210 We ignore him. 294 00:12:57,250 --> 00:12:58,340 Ignore her. 295 00:12:58,380 --> 00:12:59,990 Charlie isn't a baby. 296 00:13:00,040 --> 00:13:02,990 When she makes mistakes, it affects patients. 297 00:13:03,040 --> 00:13:04,950 How often do med students get to do something 298 00:13:05,000 --> 00:13:06,519 that could actually hurt a patient? 299 00:13:07,870 --> 00:13:08,938 Not very often. 300 00:13:08,963 --> 00:13:11,913 So, when she does something annoying, just let it go. 301 00:13:12,310 --> 00:13:13,570 If you ignore the mistakes, 302 00:13:13,610 --> 00:13:15,403 you don't need to look for the compliments. 303 00:13:16,223 --> 00:13:18,533 Well, yeah. That is worth a try. 304 00:13:20,363 --> 00:13:22,583 Lucy's coming out of anesthesia. 305 00:13:22,608 --> 00:13:23,828 I have to go. 306 00:13:25,413 --> 00:13:27,543 Have you forgotten something? 307 00:13:27,670 --> 00:13:30,293 Something to steel you against any level of annoyingness? 308 00:13:31,330 --> 00:13:34,680 It smells of adorableness and diaper cream? 309 00:13:48,447 --> 00:13:49,927 Now go get your ignore on. 310 00:13:56,130 --> 00:13:58,570 You have stage three ovarian cancer. 311 00:13:58,620 --> 00:14:00,750 It's spread beyond the ovaries and pelvis. 312 00:14:05,190 --> 00:14:06,450 I told my GP months ago 313 00:14:06,490 --> 00:14:08,060 that I was having back pain and nausea. 314 00:14:08,100 --> 00:14:09,540 He said that it was probably just stress. 315 00:14:09,580 --> 00:14:11,542 Unfortunately, that's not uncommon. 316 00:14:11,650 --> 00:14:14,712 70% of cases are missed at the early stages. 317 00:14:17,600 --> 00:14:20,340 We will do everything we can, 318 00:14:20,365 --> 00:14:23,972 starting with removing as many of the tumors as possible. 319 00:14:25,030 --> 00:14:27,684 And hopefully chemo can get the rest. 320 00:14:41,480 --> 00:14:43,866 Thanks. Perfect. 321 00:14:45,140 --> 00:14:47,662 - Audrey! - Oh! 322 00:14:48,750 --> 00:14:50,373 - Hi. - Hello. 323 00:14:50,443 --> 00:14:52,833 So, we were just talking about where to go for dinner. 324 00:14:53,100 --> 00:14:54,540 Yeah, what was that place? 325 00:14:54,580 --> 00:14:57,330 - The Chinese fusion on Elm? - East-West. 326 00:14:58,500 --> 00:15:00,008 Try the wonton tacos. 327 00:15:02,110 --> 00:15:04,940 Excuse me. Um... 328 00:15:04,990 --> 00:15:08,730 Hey, uh, I'm guessing you're not okay with this. 329 00:15:08,770 --> 00:15:10,380 You sleeping with my mom? 330 00:15:10,430 --> 00:15:12,380 My dad did it for years. We got along fine. 331 00:15:12,430 --> 00:15:14,260 Since you're not okay with it, uh, 332 00:15:14,300 --> 00:15:16,740 is there anything that I can do 333 00:15:16,780 --> 00:15:18,390 to make this a little bit less awkward? 334 00:15:18,430 --> 00:15:20,194 There's not going out with her. 335 00:15:20,463 --> 00:15:21,513 Short of that? 336 00:15:22,530 --> 00:15:23,920 You asked. 337 00:15:39,890 --> 00:15:40,947 Are they? 338 00:15:40,987 --> 00:15:43,330 Please don't make me think about this any more than I already have. 339 00:15:43,370 --> 00:15:46,030 Ah! Wow. 340 00:15:46,070 --> 00:15:47,640 You've really gotta hand it to Glassman. 341 00:15:47,680 --> 00:15:48,770 I really don't. 342 00:15:48,810 --> 00:15:50,030 Sleeping with your competitor's mom 343 00:15:50,070 --> 00:15:51,957 has got to be the 49th Law of Power. 344 00:15:51,997 --> 00:15:53,900 He's not my competitor. He's my colleague. 345 00:15:57,300 --> 00:15:59,040 Imagine if they got married. 346 00:16:04,227 --> 00:16:07,592 That's why we are recommending gastric sleeve surgery. 347 00:16:07,700 --> 00:16:09,270 She's 14. 348 00:16:09,310 --> 00:16:11,188 Lucy fits the guidelines. 349 00:16:11,238 --> 00:16:12,710 She has a BMI of 40, 350 00:16:12,750 --> 00:16:15,100 she's 136 pounds overweight, 351 00:16:15,140 --> 00:16:18,100 and she's having severe medical problems as a result. 352 00:16:18,150 --> 00:16:19,970 Do other kids get surgery like that? 353 00:16:20,020 --> 00:16:21,980 There were 1,400 bariatric surgeries 354 00:16:22,020 --> 00:16:23,890 performed on adolescents in 2022, 355 00:16:23,930 --> 00:16:25,410 and it's becoming more common every year. 356 00:16:25,460 --> 00:16:28,330 Dr. Murphy will remove a large portion of your stomach. 357 00:16:28,370 --> 00:16:30,030 That will help you to eat less. 358 00:16:30,070 --> 00:16:31,810 And in ways we don't fully understand yet, 359 00:16:31,860 --> 00:16:33,900 it reduces the hunger signals in your brain. 360 00:16:35,437 --> 00:16:37,688 That is not wrong. 361 00:16:40,910 --> 00:16:42,300 I want to do this. 362 00:16:44,476 --> 00:16:47,306 Mom, I think about food all the time. 363 00:16:47,480 --> 00:16:49,867 I don't want to keep fighting my body. 364 00:16:49,976 --> 00:16:51,285 I'm just so tired. 365 00:16:52,790 --> 00:16:54,038 Baby, I didn't... 366 00:16:54,223 --> 00:16:56,663 I didn't realize you were still hurting this much. 367 00:16:58,440 --> 00:17:00,420 I didn't want you to know. 368 00:17:00,970 --> 00:17:03,580 I was trying to fight it on my own, but... 369 00:17:03,630 --> 00:17:05,133 I don't think I can anymore. 370 00:17:10,582 --> 00:17:12,502 Uh, okay. Let's do it. 371 00:17:13,720 --> 00:17:14,720 Let's do it. 372 00:17:17,120 --> 00:17:20,510 Charlie will return with the preoperative consent form. 373 00:17:20,560 --> 00:17:22,340 Responsibility. 374 00:17:22,380 --> 00:17:23,690 Awesome. 375 00:17:27,470 --> 00:17:30,820 Gunderson's doing a robotic-assisted thoracoscopic lobectomy. 376 00:17:30,930 --> 00:17:32,710 Gunderson. Isn't he a little green? 377 00:17:32,735 --> 00:17:35,395 Yeah. He'll probably push the wrong button and start a robot rebellion. 378 00:17:35,570 --> 00:17:36,830 Can you assist? 379 00:17:36,880 --> 00:17:38,530 I could shuffle some stuff around. 380 00:17:38,570 --> 00:17:40,580 Great. Problem solved. 381 00:17:40,620 --> 00:17:42,800 I do need you to write that memo to the board, though. 382 00:17:43,450 --> 00:17:44,380 What memo? 383 00:17:44,405 --> 00:17:46,774 "Latest Practices in Lean Hospital Process Management." 384 00:17:47,100 --> 00:17:48,710 Oh, that memo. 385 00:17:48,760 --> 00:17:50,067 The one you were supposed to write. 386 00:17:50,117 --> 00:17:52,597 - Now that I'm bailing Gunderson out... - You don't have the time. 387 00:17:53,846 --> 00:17:55,236 Let me guess, it's due... 388 00:17:55,279 --> 00:17:57,059 - Tomorrow. - What a coincidence. 389 00:17:57,084 --> 00:17:59,312 Now I can't take your mom out to dinner. 390 00:18:00,349 --> 00:18:01,519 OR awaits. 391 00:18:05,730 --> 00:18:07,820 Before I have you sign this, I need to tell you 392 00:18:07,860 --> 00:18:09,820 about the risks of gastric sleeve surgery. 393 00:18:09,870 --> 00:18:11,610 - Yeah, okay. - Okay. 394 00:18:11,650 --> 00:18:13,260 One, acid reflux. 395 00:18:13,300 --> 00:18:15,417 Two, vitamin or iron deficiency. 396 00:18:15,442 --> 00:18:16,705 Three, hernias. 397 00:18:16,730 --> 00:18:18,867 Four, internal bleeding during surgery or afterwards. 398 00:18:18,892 --> 00:18:20,683 - That doesn't sound good. - It's not. 399 00:18:20,750 --> 00:18:22,880 Five, surgical wound infection. 400 00:18:22,920 --> 00:18:24,230 Six, fatal blood clots. 401 00:18:24,270 --> 00:18:26,400 - Fatal? - Yeah, like a pulmonary embolism. 402 00:18:26,450 --> 00:18:28,010 Oxygen is blocked from your lungs, 403 00:18:28,060 --> 00:18:29,091 and you start to suffocate. 404 00:18:29,273 --> 00:18:30,943 Seven, sepsis leading to organ failure. 405 00:18:30,968 --> 00:18:32,578 - Wait. Hold on. - I've changed my mind. 406 00:18:32,603 --> 00:18:34,733 So have I. We're not doing this. 407 00:18:38,110 --> 00:18:40,102 Guess you don't need to hear about number eight. 408 00:18:45,446 --> 00:18:48,096 You have put that girl's life at risk by telling her that. 409 00:18:48,121 --> 00:18:49,471 I did what I was supposed to. 410 00:18:49,496 --> 00:18:51,326 I listed all the possible complications. 411 00:18:51,351 --> 00:18:53,841 - Did you say how unlikely each one was? - No, but... 412 00:18:53,866 --> 00:18:55,089 Or explain that many were 413 00:18:55,113 --> 00:18:56,369 - a complication of any surgery? - I didn't think! 414 00:18:56,393 --> 00:18:58,304 Or that this was a relatively safe surgery? 415 00:18:58,329 --> 00:19:00,679 - This is unfair. - Stop interrupting me. 416 00:19:00,704 --> 00:19:02,184 You're interrupting me. 417 00:19:02,209 --> 00:19:04,349 I am the attending. 418 00:19:04,530 --> 00:19:06,750 I have tried complimenting you, 419 00:19:06,790 --> 00:19:07,964 but that didn't work. 420 00:19:07,989 --> 00:19:10,066 I have also tried ignoring you, but that also didn't work. 421 00:19:10,091 --> 00:19:12,661 But I am required to keep teaching you, though, 422 00:19:12,686 --> 00:19:14,516 so you will have to go back to learning 423 00:19:14,541 --> 00:19:16,151 by observing only. 424 00:19:16,370 --> 00:19:18,330 You will not bother me. 425 00:19:18,370 --> 00:19:19,940 You will not say a word, 426 00:19:19,980 --> 00:19:22,290 either in surgery or in front of the patient. 427 00:19:31,340 --> 00:19:32,446 You're quiet. 428 00:19:34,430 --> 00:19:36,242 I can't stop thinking about Ronit. 429 00:19:38,400 --> 00:19:40,660 If her doctor had only taken her seriously. 430 00:19:40,685 --> 00:19:42,645 Imagine trying to plan a wedding 431 00:19:42,670 --> 00:19:45,100 while she's in chemo and he's recovering from a broken hip. 432 00:19:45,125 --> 00:19:47,255 Who cares about their wedding planning? She could die. 433 00:19:47,280 --> 00:19:49,280 - They care. - Well, they shouldn't. 434 00:19:49,305 --> 00:19:51,005 Marriage is an outdated institution 435 00:19:51,030 --> 00:19:53,990 that was invented as a property transaction, 436 00:19:54,015 --> 00:19:55,715 not as an expression of love. 437 00:19:55,740 --> 00:19:57,221 How people feel about it now is... 438 00:19:58,670 --> 00:19:59,760 That's all that matters. 439 00:19:59,800 --> 00:20:01,760 Well, sometimes our feelings trap us 440 00:20:01,800 --> 00:20:04,500 in conventional ways of thinking. 441 00:20:04,550 --> 00:20:07,231 Like, Rashi says that most of the Israelites 442 00:20:07,289 --> 00:20:09,469 stayed enslaved in Egypt because it's all they knew. 443 00:20:09,494 --> 00:20:11,844 Are you seriously comparing a loving marriage to slavery? 444 00:20:11,979 --> 00:20:14,809 Both were invented as a means of exchanging human chattel. 445 00:20:14,834 --> 00:20:17,194 That is offensive on so many levels. 446 00:20:17,219 --> 00:20:19,439 And I doubt it's what Rashi, whoever that is, 447 00:20:19,516 --> 00:20:21,346 meant when he wrote that parable. 448 00:20:21,371 --> 00:20:22,901 It's a Midrash, not a parable. 449 00:20:23,023 --> 00:20:24,463 Well, you sure know a lot about Judaism 450 00:20:24,488 --> 00:20:25,928 for someone who isn't Jewish. 451 00:20:25,953 --> 00:20:27,433 Okay, I'm not a practicing Jew, 452 00:20:27,458 --> 00:20:29,028 but I don't have to share my life story with a patient. 453 00:20:29,053 --> 00:20:31,793 Why didn't you just say, "I was raised Jewish, but I don't"... 454 00:20:33,140 --> 00:20:34,675 Hold on. I'll get you a bandage. 455 00:20:38,580 --> 00:20:39,580 Here. 456 00:20:43,590 --> 00:20:45,460 I don't feel like cooking anymore. 457 00:20:46,240 --> 00:20:47,550 I'm going home. 458 00:20:57,380 --> 00:20:58,900 What are you still doing here? 459 00:20:58,950 --> 00:21:01,340 Aaron and I are going out to dinner. 460 00:21:01,390 --> 00:21:02,690 And salsa dancing. 461 00:21:03,137 --> 00:21:04,407 You dance salsa? 462 00:21:05,480 --> 00:21:06,610 You dance salsa? 463 00:21:06,650 --> 00:21:09,390 My Spanish teacher got me into it. 464 00:21:09,440 --> 00:21:10,700 You have a Spanish teacher? 465 00:21:10,740 --> 00:21:12,310 She could actually be a Spanish teacher. 466 00:21:12,350 --> 00:21:14,270 Habla muy bueno. 467 00:21:14,310 --> 00:21:16,230 - Ah, bien, actually. - Bien, actually. 468 00:21:16,270 --> 00:21:19,970 So, I was doing research for this very urgent memo, 469 00:21:20,010 --> 00:21:23,890 and I came upon this great article on Lean Practices 470 00:21:23,930 --> 00:21:25,980 in the Argentinian Journal for Hospital Administration, 471 00:21:26,020 --> 00:21:27,370 and it was in Spanish. 472 00:21:27,410 --> 00:21:29,200 So I translated it for him. 473 00:21:29,240 --> 00:21:30,940 So she translated it for me 474 00:21:30,980 --> 00:21:34,330 and had some great ideas for the memo itself 475 00:21:34,380 --> 00:21:37,120 and saved me hours of work. 476 00:21:37,160 --> 00:21:39,865 Oh, don't wait up tonight, hon. 477 00:21:44,120 --> 00:21:45,430 With an open surgery, 478 00:21:45,470 --> 00:21:47,080 Park and I can get more of the tumors. 479 00:21:47,130 --> 00:21:50,390 Laparoscopic surgery lowers the risk of complications, 480 00:21:50,430 --> 00:21:52,040 which would allow her to start chemo sooner. 481 00:21:53,090 --> 00:21:54,714 Ronit's pre-op labs. 482 00:21:56,400 --> 00:21:58,400 - Hey, Jordan. - Hey, Jerome. 483 00:21:58,440 --> 00:21:59,716 How's Grandma E? 484 00:21:59,756 --> 00:22:01,320 Doctor said she'll recover fine. 485 00:22:01,360 --> 00:22:02,930 Whether they'll recover from me second-guessing 486 00:22:02,970 --> 00:22:04,670 everything they're doing is another question. 487 00:22:04,710 --> 00:22:07,393 I'm glad to hear it. On both counts. 488 00:22:10,320 --> 00:22:11,670 What was that? 489 00:22:13,500 --> 00:22:14,984 We had a fight last night. 490 00:22:17,940 --> 00:22:19,380 All right, this weekend, 491 00:22:19,420 --> 00:22:21,657 I found a box in Jerome's drawer. 492 00:22:22,250 --> 00:22:24,340 I'm pretty sure it was a ring box. 493 00:22:24,380 --> 00:22:26,829 Tomorrow night's the second anniversary of our first date. 494 00:22:27,470 --> 00:22:28,730 I think he's going to propose. 495 00:22:28,780 --> 00:22:32,260 Or I should say, was. I don't know about now. 496 00:22:32,300 --> 00:22:35,260 - But isn't that what you wanted? - No, it is. 497 00:22:35,310 --> 00:22:37,530 There's just something about the ceremony of it all, 498 00:22:37,570 --> 00:22:40,220 the ancient rituals, it just feels... icky. 499 00:22:40,270 --> 00:22:42,270 Ancient rituals? 500 00:22:42,310 --> 00:22:45,230 We're talking about you getting married, not sacrificing a goat. 501 00:22:45,270 --> 00:22:47,933 I worry we'd only be doing it because we're supposed to. 502 00:22:48,720 --> 00:22:52,354 In Brooklyn, my path was laid out for me. 503 00:22:53,550 --> 00:22:56,770 Study the Talmud, get married, have kids. 504 00:22:56,795 --> 00:22:59,065 I didn't really have a choice. 505 00:22:59,106 --> 00:23:00,716 What if this is the same thing? 506 00:23:01,496 --> 00:23:03,406 Do you love Jerome? 507 00:23:03,431 --> 00:23:05,911 - Absolutely. - Then you do have a choice. 508 00:23:05,936 --> 00:23:08,116 You can make a life with the man you love 509 00:23:08,141 --> 00:23:10,491 or find another path without him. 510 00:23:18,470 --> 00:23:21,300 Bariatric surgery is conducted hundreds of thousands 511 00:23:21,325 --> 00:23:23,585 of times a year in United States hospitals. 512 00:23:23,610 --> 00:23:25,690 But what Ms. Lukaitis talked about, 513 00:23:25,715 --> 00:23:27,495 the bleeding, the clots... 514 00:23:27,520 --> 00:23:29,780 Serious complications are very rare. 515 00:23:30,010 --> 00:23:31,140 How rare? 516 00:23:31,190 --> 00:23:33,230 Based on my surgical record, 517 00:23:33,280 --> 00:23:35,320 site infection rate is less than 1.5%, 518 00:23:35,370 --> 00:23:38,280 and I would identify it early and treat it well. 519 00:23:38,320 --> 00:23:40,070 Excess bleeding is less than 1%, 520 00:23:40,110 --> 00:23:42,196 and death is 1/20th of that. 521 00:23:43,680 --> 00:23:45,032 What do you think, Mom? 522 00:23:49,990 --> 00:23:51,250 I don't know. 523 00:23:51,416 --> 00:23:53,166 I don't want her to be ashamed. 524 00:23:55,439 --> 00:23:56,794 Last year... 525 00:23:57,636 --> 00:24:01,590 she was suicidal because of the teasing and the bullying. 526 00:24:02,440 --> 00:24:04,718 And I was too, when I was her age. 527 00:24:05,000 --> 00:24:06,595 We got counseling 528 00:24:06,807 --> 00:24:10,637 and were really in a place where she loved herself, 529 00:24:10,662 --> 00:24:12,792 and I don't want you to lose that. 530 00:24:15,390 --> 00:24:18,090 I was diagnosed with ASD when I was five years old. 531 00:24:18,115 --> 00:24:20,075 That's not relevant. And I told you not... 532 00:24:20,100 --> 00:24:22,660 Shaun, I think they want to hear what Charlie has to say. 533 00:24:29,460 --> 00:24:30,460 Thank you. 534 00:24:32,030 --> 00:24:33,340 My brain... 535 00:24:33,380 --> 00:24:35,990 it doesn't process emotional signals 536 00:24:36,030 --> 00:24:37,730 like other people's brains. 537 00:24:37,780 --> 00:24:40,000 Same with Lucy's brain with hunger. 538 00:24:41,193 --> 00:24:43,023 My parents wanted what was best for me, 539 00:24:43,048 --> 00:24:45,308 but my mom, she didn't want me to feel different. 540 00:24:45,333 --> 00:24:48,283 So she was against me having an in-school aid. 541 00:24:48,308 --> 00:24:51,398 Thought it would stigmatize me, but my dad convinced her. 542 00:24:51,423 --> 00:24:53,083 They found a great aid 543 00:24:53,270 --> 00:24:56,604 that helped me learn to navigate the world. 544 00:24:57,010 --> 00:24:59,648 This surgery won't stigmatize your daughter. 545 00:25:00,043 --> 00:25:02,393 It will give her what she needs to thrive. 546 00:25:04,213 --> 00:25:05,905 Everyone needs help sometimes. 547 00:25:06,777 --> 00:25:08,427 Let Dr. Murphy help you. 548 00:25:14,420 --> 00:25:15,770 Mom, please. 549 00:25:19,160 --> 00:25:20,170 Yeah. 550 00:25:21,553 --> 00:25:22,553 Okay. 551 00:25:25,300 --> 00:25:26,592 Good job. 552 00:25:31,036 --> 00:25:32,386 After radical debulking, 553 00:25:32,411 --> 00:25:34,099 I don't see any obvious gross tumor. 554 00:25:35,383 --> 00:25:38,562 Assessing abdominal organs and spleen. 555 00:25:40,773 --> 00:25:43,067 There are sub-centimeter lesions on her liver. 556 00:25:43,760 --> 00:25:45,736 Infiltrative hepatic metastasis. 557 00:25:48,843 --> 00:25:50,153 Check her diaphragm. 558 00:25:56,106 --> 00:25:57,626 It's everywhere. 559 00:25:57,730 --> 00:26:00,470 She probably only has a couple months, if that. 560 00:26:02,843 --> 00:26:04,103 Let's close. 561 00:26:08,506 --> 00:26:10,726 What exactly is your motivation here? 562 00:26:10,830 --> 00:26:14,260 Are you trying to piss me off? Mark your territory? 563 00:26:14,310 --> 00:26:15,310 What are you talking about? 564 00:26:15,350 --> 00:26:17,267 You, dating my mom. 565 00:26:17,750 --> 00:26:19,880 You think this is about you? 566 00:26:19,920 --> 00:26:21,315 It's crossed my mind. 567 00:26:21,340 --> 00:26:23,115 Are you out of your mind? 568 00:26:23,140 --> 00:26:24,660 Oh, come on. What do you have in common with her? 569 00:26:25,476 --> 00:26:26,649 My mom's... 570 00:26:27,360 --> 00:26:28,410 She's, uh... 571 00:26:28,970 --> 00:26:29,970 Yes? 572 00:26:30,540 --> 00:26:31,540 Dull. 573 00:26:32,630 --> 00:26:34,535 - My mom's dull. - No, she's not. 574 00:26:36,136 --> 00:26:39,707 She's a great person, a loving mother. 575 00:26:40,900 --> 00:26:42,510 But she was a homemaker. 576 00:26:42,550 --> 00:26:44,770 Not exactly the world's most interesting woman. 577 00:26:45,990 --> 00:26:48,340 Let me tell you something about your mom. 578 00:26:48,380 --> 00:26:51,300 She learned Spanish so she could read Don Quixote 579 00:26:51,340 --> 00:26:53,095 in the original. Who does that? 580 00:26:53,189 --> 00:26:55,929 She's seen every movie in the Criterion Collection. 581 00:26:55,954 --> 00:26:57,304 That's five stars right there. 582 00:26:57,329 --> 00:27:00,159 She buys The New York Times in paper form 583 00:27:00,239 --> 00:27:01,669 so she can do the crossword, 584 00:27:01,773 --> 00:27:03,723 which she does through Saturday. 585 00:27:03,748 --> 00:27:05,858 I don't even get past Wednesday. 586 00:27:07,220 --> 00:27:09,611 - She does? - Yes, she does. 587 00:27:10,393 --> 00:27:12,213 Maybe you should get to know your mom a little bit better. 588 00:27:12,238 --> 00:27:13,628 I certainly will. 589 00:27:14,630 --> 00:27:16,150 Thrilled for you two. 590 00:27:16,323 --> 00:27:17,983 Plus, the sex is amazing. 591 00:27:27,250 --> 00:27:28,714 I want to marry you. 592 00:27:32,300 --> 00:27:34,870 It won't be a Jewish wedding, but... 593 00:27:36,350 --> 00:27:38,891 der mentsh trakht un got lakht. 594 00:27:42,313 --> 00:27:44,480 "Man plans, God laughs." 595 00:27:49,920 --> 00:27:52,360 But if a Beit Din, 596 00:27:52,400 --> 00:27:55,616 a council of three rabbis, approves your conversion, 597 00:27:56,930 --> 00:27:58,930 then there are only a couple steps left. 598 00:27:58,980 --> 00:28:01,413 The big one being a ritual bath. 599 00:28:05,160 --> 00:28:06,770 You can have a Jewish wedding here. 600 00:28:09,550 --> 00:28:10,990 I'll set it all up for you. 601 00:28:13,820 --> 00:28:15,260 I was raised Hasidic. 602 00:28:20,000 --> 00:28:22,350 You've done this with strength. 603 00:28:22,390 --> 00:28:23,390 You will be blessed. 604 00:28:42,540 --> 00:28:44,810 I'm sorry. I just can't take this anymore. 605 00:28:44,850 --> 00:28:46,680 - No. No. - I have to rock him to sleep. 606 00:28:46,720 --> 00:28:49,240 No, that is the worst thing we could do. 607 00:28:49,290 --> 00:28:51,250 It will teach Steve that if he cries for ten minutes, 608 00:28:51,290 --> 00:28:53,730 he will get rewarded with a hug from Mom. 609 00:28:53,770 --> 00:28:55,550 Steve isn't a test subject. 610 00:28:55,600 --> 00:28:59,730 He's our baby, and we need to be flexible with him. 611 00:28:59,780 --> 00:29:02,080 He will be fine. 612 00:29:02,130 --> 00:29:03,520 I'm not sure I will be fine. 613 00:29:03,560 --> 00:29:05,596 This is so hard. 614 00:29:05,646 --> 00:29:07,220 And you have surgery tomorrow. 615 00:29:07,260 --> 00:29:08,960 Don't you need your sleep? 616 00:29:09,000 --> 00:29:13,880 We should focus on how much better it will be 617 00:29:13,920 --> 00:29:15,970 for all three of us in a few weeks. 618 00:29:17,620 --> 00:29:18,660 Okay. 619 00:29:27,530 --> 00:29:29,880 Thank you for doing this, Rabbi Benjamin. 620 00:29:29,905 --> 00:29:32,605 I've adored Scott and Ronit since I met them last year. 621 00:29:32,969 --> 00:29:34,359 I'd do anything for them. 622 00:29:35,480 --> 00:29:38,130 Now, time for some Jewish math. 623 00:29:38,340 --> 00:29:41,990 300 gallons is about 150 se'ah. 624 00:29:42,040 --> 00:29:45,040 We need 40 se'ah of natural water 625 00:29:45,080 --> 00:29:48,520 and a wall between the natural water and tap water. 626 00:29:48,560 --> 00:29:51,260 And we aren't getting rainwater in here, 627 00:29:51,310 --> 00:29:54,140 but Rav Kook and the Ben Ish Chai 628 00:29:54,180 --> 00:29:56,400 wrote that we can use ice, 629 00:29:56,440 --> 00:29:57,570 so we're going to need a lot. 630 00:29:57,620 --> 00:30:00,360 We have a giant ice maker on every floor. 631 00:30:03,880 --> 00:30:05,020 Where do you go to shul, Asher? 632 00:30:06,710 --> 00:30:08,190 Uh, I don't. 633 00:30:10,670 --> 00:30:13,720 Or, you know, not since I came out. 634 00:30:13,760 --> 00:30:15,420 You can't be gay and Jewish? 635 00:30:15,460 --> 00:30:19,730 Well, aside from the explicit prohibitions in Vayikra 18 and 20, 636 00:30:19,770 --> 00:30:21,080 there's the Noahide laws 637 00:30:21,120 --> 00:30:23,640 and the sin of Sodom, as explained in Sanhedrin. 638 00:30:23,690 --> 00:30:25,250 You should brush up on Sanhedrin. 639 00:30:25,300 --> 00:30:26,990 According to the Midrash, 640 00:30:27,040 --> 00:30:29,040 the sin of Sodom was cruelty toward strangers, not homosexuality. 641 00:30:31,260 --> 00:30:32,910 Is an Orthodox rabbi telling me 642 00:30:32,960 --> 00:30:35,180 that the real sodomites are the homophobes? 643 00:30:35,220 --> 00:30:36,985 If the Midrash fits... 644 00:30:37,573 --> 00:30:39,793 You are a Jew, Asher. Whether you want to be or not. 645 00:30:39,920 --> 00:30:41,970 Anti-Semites don't give you a pass 646 00:30:42,010 --> 00:30:44,140 because you have no mezuzah on your door, 647 00:30:44,190 --> 00:30:46,010 so might as well get something positive out of it. 648 00:30:46,060 --> 00:30:48,750 Respectfully, Rabbi, I have everything I need in my life. 649 00:30:48,800 --> 00:30:50,800 5,000 years of tradition, 650 00:30:50,840 --> 00:30:52,890 and you can't find anything of value? 651 00:30:52,930 --> 00:30:54,890 The Torah isn't all or nothing. 652 00:30:54,940 --> 00:30:57,477 Try lighting some candles on a Friday night. 653 00:30:57,501 --> 00:30:59,031 Take a little break on a Saturday. 654 00:30:59,071 --> 00:31:00,771 Put some spare change in the Tzedakah box for the poor. 655 00:31:00,811 --> 00:31:02,094 Read Rambam... 656 00:31:02,771 --> 00:31:04,012 or Philip Roth. 657 00:31:07,731 --> 00:31:09,171 I do love bagels. 658 00:31:09,211 --> 00:31:12,651 They're super carby, but I can always scoop out the middle, right? 659 00:31:12,691 --> 00:31:15,091 Heresy. And yet, a start. 660 00:31:18,131 --> 00:31:19,391 Ahh. 661 00:31:19,441 --> 00:31:20,661 Now let's make a mikveh. 662 00:33:14,341 --> 00:33:16,991 Placing the final staples. 663 00:33:17,031 --> 00:33:19,951 Okay. Removing the amputated stomach. 664 00:33:21,131 --> 00:33:22,466 You okay? 665 00:33:22,506 --> 00:33:25,278 I got less than the optimal amount of sleep last night, 666 00:33:25,978 --> 00:33:27,906 but I am fine to operate. 667 00:33:28,949 --> 00:33:32,831 Partial stomach is removed. 668 00:33:34,181 --> 00:33:37,581 Heart rate's 115. BP is 146 over 93. 669 00:33:37,621 --> 00:33:39,101 Splenic infarct? 670 00:33:39,141 --> 00:33:41,411 No, it is baseline color and well perfused. 671 00:33:41,453 --> 00:33:43,151 - It could be an intestinal... - No, it couldn't. 672 00:33:43,191 --> 00:33:44,548 Why not? 673 00:33:45,018 --> 00:33:46,307 Charlie, we don't have time to answer your questions 674 00:33:46,331 --> 00:33:47,452 right now, okay? 675 00:33:47,501 --> 00:33:48,501 That makes sense. 676 00:33:53,291 --> 00:33:55,811 Submerge the remaining stomach in saline. 677 00:33:55,861 --> 00:33:57,731 Shoot air in from the endoscope. 678 00:33:57,771 --> 00:33:59,601 That will tell us what the problem is. 679 00:34:03,171 --> 00:34:04,561 It's a leak. 680 00:34:04,601 --> 00:34:06,741 We need to reinforce our staple line with sutures and... 681 00:34:08,001 --> 00:34:09,701 Heart rate 128. BP 170. 682 00:34:09,741 --> 00:34:12,481 4-0 Vicryls, fibrin glue. 683 00:34:12,521 --> 00:34:14,221 Get the 4-0's from the suture cart. 684 00:34:14,271 --> 00:34:15,881 Why aren't they on the back table? 685 00:34:15,921 --> 00:34:17,621 I read in The Journal for Bariatric Surgery 686 00:34:17,661 --> 00:34:18,921 that they were rarely used, so... 687 00:34:18,971 --> 00:34:20,271 You should have asked an attending. 688 00:34:20,311 --> 00:34:22,401 I know she can be quite unrelenting, 689 00:34:22,451 --> 00:34:23,711 but you should not make changes 690 00:34:23,751 --> 00:34:25,321 based on the instructions of a medical student. 691 00:34:25,361 --> 00:34:27,631 - Starting sutures. - It's not her fault or mine. 692 00:34:27,671 --> 00:34:29,021 You have the stitches now, so... 693 00:34:29,061 --> 00:34:31,201 I am trying to concentrate. 694 00:34:31,241 --> 00:34:32,761 - Suturing. - I need to explain myself! 695 00:34:32,811 --> 00:34:34,501 Stop talking. You're distracting me. 696 00:34:34,551 --> 00:34:36,241 I wanted to impress you. It's a top journal... 697 00:34:36,291 --> 00:34:37,681 Get out of the OR! 698 00:34:41,291 --> 00:34:42,731 Get out right now. 699 00:34:50,221 --> 00:34:51,261 Goggles. 700 00:34:59,011 --> 00:35:00,749 No more anastomotic leak. 701 00:35:02,361 --> 00:35:03,621 Let's close. 702 00:35:11,281 --> 00:35:13,451 Lucy, we'll keep you here for a couple of days, 703 00:35:13,501 --> 00:35:15,071 and then you'll be good to go home. 704 00:35:15,111 --> 00:35:16,981 When will I start to lose weight? 705 00:35:17,021 --> 00:35:20,641 You can expect to lose five to fifteen pounds per week 706 00:35:20,681 --> 00:35:22,729 over the next few months. 707 00:35:35,261 --> 00:35:36,368 You look nice. 708 00:35:36,987 --> 00:35:38,077 Going out? 709 00:35:38,671 --> 00:35:39,671 Maybe. 710 00:35:42,271 --> 00:35:44,401 I could tell that you were uncomfortable 711 00:35:44,441 --> 00:35:46,531 when I saw you with Aaron. 712 00:35:46,571 --> 00:35:50,541 And I think I knew you were uncomfortable even before then. 713 00:35:50,581 --> 00:35:54,344 But I just was having so much fun, I... 714 00:35:54,891 --> 00:35:56,241 It was unfair of me. 715 00:35:56,281 --> 00:35:58,241 - And I think that maybe I should just... - Mom. 716 00:36:00,411 --> 00:36:01,643 It was unfair of me. 717 00:36:02,631 --> 00:36:03,641 Go have fun. 718 00:36:04,664 --> 00:36:06,014 Are you sure? 719 00:36:06,901 --> 00:36:08,031 Yeah. 720 00:36:10,421 --> 00:36:12,654 Thank you, honey. 721 00:36:18,611 --> 00:36:21,571 Why didn't you ever tell me about learning Spanish 722 00:36:22,571 --> 00:36:25,871 or salsa dancing or anything? 723 00:36:27,181 --> 00:36:28,670 You never asked. 724 00:36:30,531 --> 00:36:32,757 I guess I never thought there was much to hear. 725 00:36:39,191 --> 00:36:41,021 You and Dad... 726 00:36:41,061 --> 00:36:44,551 He always seemed so in charge, 727 00:36:44,591 --> 00:36:46,104 and you just... 728 00:36:47,511 --> 00:36:48,681 went along. 729 00:36:51,941 --> 00:36:55,301 I'm sure it did seem that way, 730 00:36:55,341 --> 00:36:56,781 because I knew it was important to him. 731 00:36:56,821 --> 00:36:58,951 He was old school. 732 00:36:58,991 --> 00:37:00,452 But at its heart... 733 00:37:01,651 --> 00:37:03,330 it was a partnership. 734 00:37:05,221 --> 00:37:06,416 I didn't know. 735 00:37:08,181 --> 00:37:13,401 You have always been so ambitious, driven. 736 00:37:13,441 --> 00:37:16,661 Is that because you didn't want to be someone who just... 737 00:37:18,231 --> 00:37:19,429 went along? 738 00:37:21,671 --> 00:37:22,671 Maybe. 739 00:37:26,461 --> 00:37:28,813 Is that why you and Clay broke up? 740 00:37:29,631 --> 00:37:32,031 He hasn't called since I've been here. 741 00:37:32,071 --> 00:37:34,527 None of his clothes are in the closet. 742 00:37:40,251 --> 00:37:41,910 He wanted to get married. 743 00:37:44,341 --> 00:37:45,664 And I wasn't sure. 744 00:37:47,611 --> 00:37:48,911 So I did my usual. 745 00:37:48,961 --> 00:37:52,587 I just avoided him and I focused on work. 746 00:37:54,351 --> 00:37:56,011 And he took the job in Chicago. 747 00:37:58,401 --> 00:38:00,136 I'm so sorry. 748 00:38:06,191 --> 00:38:07,644 I love my job. 749 00:38:09,151 --> 00:38:11,021 I like who I am. 750 00:38:11,071 --> 00:38:12,941 I don't need to get married again. 751 00:38:15,331 --> 00:38:18,601 But I don't always like being alone. 752 00:38:23,341 --> 00:38:27,131 I am always here for you. 753 00:38:46,281 --> 00:38:48,101 Charlie Lukaitis won't listen to me. 754 00:38:48,151 --> 00:38:52,461 She is putting patients at risk. 755 00:38:52,501 --> 00:38:55,551 She should finish her rotation at another hospital. 756 00:38:55,591 --> 00:38:57,501 I cannot work with her anymore. 757 00:39:00,331 --> 00:39:03,825 Well, apparently she can't work with you, either. 758 00:39:06,691 --> 00:39:08,371 She filed a complaint against you. 759 00:39:22,011 --> 00:39:24,011 Thanks for the ride. 760 00:39:24,051 --> 00:39:25,921 I really enjoyed our conversation today. 761 00:39:25,971 --> 00:39:27,101 Yeah. 762 00:39:27,141 --> 00:39:28,808 Yeah. Me too. 763 00:39:29,621 --> 00:39:31,478 Asher, when was the last time you wrapped tefillin? 764 00:39:35,281 --> 00:39:37,281 Maybe another time. 765 00:39:37,331 --> 00:39:40,461 Sorry, I just have an important dinner to get to with my boyfriend. 766 00:39:40,501 --> 00:39:42,906 I think he's going to pop the question. 767 00:39:43,461 --> 00:39:45,161 And if he doesn't, I will. 768 00:39:46,211 --> 00:39:47,251 Mazel tov. 769 00:39:47,291 --> 00:39:48,578 Thank you. 770 00:39:49,901 --> 00:39:51,781 - Until next time. - Yeah. 771 00:40:09,751 --> 00:40:11,491 - Hey! What are you doing? - Get out of here, man! 772 00:40:15,971 --> 00:40:17,801 You're desecrating a house of worship. 773 00:40:17,851 --> 00:40:19,541 What's going on? 774 00:40:19,591 --> 00:40:20,811 I've asked them to leave. 775 00:40:26,241 --> 00:40:27,771 Go. 776 00:40:27,811 --> 00:40:30,081 Go, and there won't be a problem. 777 00:40:30,121 --> 00:40:31,251 What do you care? 778 00:40:31,291 --> 00:40:32,831 He's a Jew too. 779 00:40:36,121 --> 00:40:38,171 Yeah, I am a Jew. 780 00:40:38,211 --> 00:40:39,561 A gay one, in fact. 781 00:40:39,611 --> 00:40:40,911 And I'm calling the cops. 782 00:40:43,521 --> 00:40:44,921 Go! 783 00:40:51,971 --> 00:40:53,581 Are you okay? 784 00:40:53,621 --> 00:40:55,478 Yeah. I'll call our security. 785 00:40:56,361 --> 00:40:58,106 - Are you sure? - Yeah. 786 00:41:00,761 --> 00:41:02,193 Now go get engaged.