1 00:00:07,419 --> 00:00:08,462 Who is it? 2 00:00:09,922 --> 00:00:12,967 - Hi! - Hi, I'm here to see the doctor. 3 00:00:13,968 --> 00:00:16,595 I'm Dr. Farts. Come and have a seat. 4 00:00:16,679 --> 00:00:19,682 Put your head down, you're ruining my doctor. 5 00:00:20,182 --> 00:00:23,602 Dr. Fart, I'm really sick. Do you think you could help me? 6 00:00:24,270 --> 00:00:29,066 - Yes, I can help you with my farts. - With your farts? How does that work? 7 00:00:30,693 --> 00:00:32,862 It will make you still alive. 8 00:00:34,446 --> 00:00:35,489 That makes sense. 9 00:00:39,535 --> 00:00:41,912 The farts aren't working. I still feel sick. 10 00:00:42,580 --> 00:00:46,208 - Do you think it's cancer? - Maybe, yeah. 11 00:00:46,709 --> 00:00:51,505 - So, what should I do? - Eat my poo, it'll make you feel better. 12 00:00:51,922 --> 00:00:54,133 - Your poo? - Yeah. 13 00:00:54,883 --> 00:00:58,345 - You want me to eat your poo? - Yeah. Eat the poo! 14 00:01:02,975 --> 00:01:05,603 Eat it! It's poo. 15 00:01:08,981 --> 00:01:11,859 - Finish it. Eat it all. - Okay. 16 00:01:12,568 --> 00:01:13,736 It's crunchy. 17 00:01:15,529 --> 00:01:19,783 - I think I'm cured. - You always eat the poo. 18 00:01:22,703 --> 00:01:25,080 That's it. 19 00:01:25,748 --> 00:01:27,333 - What do you think? - Yeah. 20 00:01:27,875 --> 00:01:30,252 I think that was pretty disgusting. 21 00:01:30,711 --> 00:01:32,379 - It was his concept. - Was it? 22 00:01:32,713 --> 00:01:33,964 - Yeah. - Really? 23 00:01:34,840 --> 00:01:36,383 - You don't believe me? - No. 24 00:01:39,011 --> 00:01:40,929 All right, where's Adam? 25 00:01:41,597 --> 00:01:45,642 Is he under this chair? No. 26 00:01:45,976 --> 00:01:48,062 Is he under this chair? 27 00:01:48,145 --> 00:01:50,773 - There he is! There he is! - No, no! 28 00:01:51,482 --> 00:01:53,984 Ever since I turned Adam back into a six-year-old, 29 00:01:54,360 --> 00:01:57,571 I was determined to take my duties as a father seriously. 30 00:02:00,199 --> 00:02:04,203 I realized that neither me or Angela would get anything out of this rehearsal 31 00:02:04,787 --> 00:02:07,039 unless we were both fully committed to it. 32 00:02:07,122 --> 00:02:08,165 Good, good. 33 00:02:08,248 --> 00:02:11,377 So, I decided there would be no other rehearsals besides this one. 34 00:02:11,460 --> 00:02:12,503 - I win! - What? 35 00:02:13,379 --> 00:02:14,713 - You win? - Yes! 36 00:02:14,797 --> 00:02:16,882 I was all in on my family. 37 00:02:19,093 --> 00:02:23,597 "The Holy Spirit came down from Heaven in the form of a dove 38 00:02:24,223 --> 00:02:25,933 "and landed on Jesus." 39 00:02:26,016 --> 00:02:29,061 "Then God said, 'This is my son.'" 40 00:02:30,646 --> 00:02:32,564 Back when I first joined the family, 41 00:02:32,648 --> 00:02:36,276 Angela had expressed strong opinions about Adam's education. 42 00:02:36,360 --> 00:02:39,863 I'm considering a faith-based homeschooling curriculum. 43 00:02:39,947 --> 00:02:41,990 - What do you think? - Yeah, sounds good. I… 44 00:02:42,074 --> 00:02:45,911 If we had, you know, like a Monday through Friday… 45 00:02:45,994 --> 00:02:50,082 I was raised Jewish, and I still do all of the holidays and stuff. 46 00:02:50,415 --> 00:02:53,752 But because Angela was so passionate about Christianity, 47 00:02:53,836 --> 00:02:56,380 I thought I'd be open to trying it her way. 48 00:02:56,463 --> 00:03:00,801 "And 100 million stood to attend him. His clothing was white as snow." 49 00:03:01,176 --> 00:03:03,762 "His hair was like the whitest wool." 50 00:03:05,389 --> 00:03:06,598 Yeah. 51 00:03:07,182 --> 00:03:09,685 But when Adam was three, my parents drove down 52 00:03:09,768 --> 00:03:13,939 to visit from Vancouver, Canada. So, I invited them over for a picnic. 53 00:03:14,022 --> 00:03:17,109 So, we're trying to raise him together and… 54 00:03:17,484 --> 00:03:18,610 Doing our best so far. 55 00:03:19,778 --> 00:03:21,071 - Experiencing the challenges. - Okay. 56 00:03:21,155 --> 00:03:24,491 I mean, there's definitely a lot I don't know and I feel like… 57 00:03:25,409 --> 00:03:28,620 she's been very generous with, like, she's very knowledgeable. 58 00:03:28,704 --> 00:03:33,000 I feel like I get clarity and perspective just from my relationship with God 59 00:03:33,083 --> 00:03:36,128 and learning about God and what His word says. 60 00:03:36,879 --> 00:03:38,255 What was the book you suggested? Or… 61 00:03:38,755 --> 00:03:40,048 - John 1:1. - So, certain things… 62 00:03:40,132 --> 00:03:41,592 - John 1:1. - Romans 8. 63 00:03:41,675 --> 00:03:42,801 - Certain things could… - Romans 8. 64 00:03:43,719 --> 00:03:44,845 - Sorry? - Romans 8. 65 00:03:47,264 --> 00:03:48,515 Romans 8. 66 00:03:48,599 --> 00:03:50,809 And after the meal, they cornered me. 67 00:03:50,893 --> 00:03:53,687 I didn't realize that you were raising the kid with her. 68 00:03:54,187 --> 00:03:55,564 - Yeah, I am. - Okay. 69 00:03:55,647 --> 00:03:57,733 I kind of came into it after her. 70 00:03:57,816 --> 00:03:58,859 - Yeah. - So, you know, we're… 71 00:03:59,192 --> 00:04:03,071 I think that there's nothing wrong 72 00:04:03,155 --> 00:04:05,073 with talking about the things that you've grown up with, 73 00:04:05,157 --> 00:04:09,620 the traditions you've grown up with and the values that you've learned also. 74 00:04:09,995 --> 00:04:14,082 At the time, I didn't really understand why my parents seemed to care 75 00:04:14,166 --> 00:04:17,127 how I raised a fake child with a fake partner. 76 00:04:17,544 --> 00:04:20,005 But it's kinda her. She's really into the… 77 00:04:20,964 --> 00:04:23,842 this stuff, you know, and I don't wanna overstep or… 78 00:04:23,925 --> 00:04:26,345 So, sometimes you feel like it's just easier 79 00:04:26,428 --> 00:04:29,806 to go along with things rather than deal with the tension. 80 00:04:31,099 --> 00:04:32,142 - Yeah. - Yeah. 81 00:04:32,893 --> 00:04:36,897 But my mom's tone made me realize they had seen this before. 82 00:04:37,981 --> 00:04:39,691 My relationship with Angela 83 00:04:39,775 --> 00:04:43,987 was starting to parallel real relationships I had had in the past. 84 00:04:44,071 --> 00:04:46,615 Can you go downstairs and make sure the cookies are taken out of the oven? 85 00:04:46,948 --> 00:04:48,283 - Yes. - Thanks. 86 00:04:48,367 --> 00:04:49,910 - Right now? - Yeah. 87 00:04:50,327 --> 00:04:52,537 - Okay. - Make sure to use an oven mitt. 88 00:04:52,954 --> 00:04:56,041 I have a tendency to let my partner take the reigns 89 00:04:56,124 --> 00:04:59,419 and make the decisions as a way of avoiding conflict. 90 00:05:01,129 --> 00:05:02,589 - Two more minutes. - Two… Okay. 91 00:05:03,173 --> 00:05:07,094 And by not asking Angela to raise Adam with Judaism too, 92 00:05:07,177 --> 00:05:09,304 I was falling into my old habits. 93 00:05:09,638 --> 00:05:12,099 We love you. In Jesus' name. Amen. 94 00:05:12,182 --> 00:05:14,434 - Amen. - Amen. 95 00:05:15,310 --> 00:05:18,480 But this could be an opportunity to change those habits, 96 00:05:18,855 --> 00:05:22,526 to practice getting what I wanted without it turning into a fight. 97 00:05:23,652 --> 00:05:25,904 So, I decided to wait until wintertime, 98 00:05:25,987 --> 00:05:28,365 because I thought discussing holiday plans 99 00:05:28,448 --> 00:05:32,035 would be a good way to ease into the conversation. 100 00:05:32,869 --> 00:05:36,623 But it turns out winter is very expensive to maintain. 101 00:05:39,334 --> 00:05:42,421 So, I knew I couldn't put it off much longer. 102 00:06:04,192 --> 00:06:07,070 I guess, since it's winter… 103 00:06:08,738 --> 00:06:11,575 should we talk about our holiday plans at all? 104 00:06:12,242 --> 00:06:16,204 Yeah. Christmas is really important to me and there's a lot I want to do, 105 00:06:16,288 --> 00:06:19,666 so we should get started planning sooner rather than later. 106 00:06:20,125 --> 00:06:21,334 Yeah, and… 107 00:06:22,294 --> 00:06:25,213 I was just wondering if maybe we should… 108 00:06:25,547 --> 00:06:31,136 or how you'd feel about incorporating some Judaism into Adam's life too. 109 00:06:34,431 --> 00:06:35,473 Okay. 110 00:06:36,183 --> 00:06:38,894 I had flown out one of my Fielder Method graduates 111 00:06:38,977 --> 00:06:42,063 to help me better understand this woman I was living with 112 00:06:42,147 --> 00:06:44,816 and navigate this sensitive conversation. 113 00:06:44,900 --> 00:06:47,652 I just feel like this whole experience was supposed to be about me, 114 00:06:47,736 --> 00:06:50,405 and now all of a sudden it feels like it's becoming about you. 115 00:06:50,488 --> 00:06:51,740 But in a real relationship, 116 00:06:51,823 --> 00:06:53,825 your partner might have different feelings than you, right? 117 00:06:53,909 --> 00:06:56,036 Yeah, but I know that they'd be Christian. 118 00:06:56,369 --> 00:06:58,997 But people change their minds all the time, right? 119 00:06:59,080 --> 00:07:00,874 Were you always Christian? 120 00:07:01,958 --> 00:07:03,293 Exactly. 121 00:07:03,376 --> 00:07:05,629 There could be no flaws in my approach. 122 00:07:05,712 --> 00:07:10,884 So I constructed an exact replica of our entire home to get every detail right. 123 00:07:11,259 --> 00:07:12,385 - Hello. - Come on in. 124 00:07:12,469 --> 00:07:13,678 - This is Angela. - Hi, there. 125 00:07:13,762 --> 00:07:14,930 - This is Adam. - Hi. 126 00:07:15,013 --> 00:07:16,056 How are you… Hi, Adam. 127 00:07:16,139 --> 00:07:19,017 I had the actress pose as a new nanny I had hired, 128 00:07:19,100 --> 00:07:21,937 so she'd be able to secretly observe Angela 129 00:07:22,020 --> 00:07:24,314 and learn everything about her primary. 130 00:07:24,397 --> 00:07:26,274 Nathan and I are not… 131 00:07:26,733 --> 00:07:28,193 - We were never… - Okay. 132 00:07:28,276 --> 00:07:32,739 These are the teas she uses. This is her handwriting. You see? 133 00:07:32,822 --> 00:07:36,034 Do you find that it's been healthy for you here? 134 00:07:39,954 --> 00:07:42,457 Making my rehearsal as true as life. 135 00:07:42,540 --> 00:07:46,378 Okay, well, now I feel like you're just interested in winning an argument 136 00:07:46,461 --> 00:07:48,129 and not actually having a conversation with me. 137 00:07:48,213 --> 00:07:49,756 - No, no. That's absurd. No, no. - So… 138 00:07:49,839 --> 00:07:52,550 This could be fun. There's a lot of couples that… 139 00:07:53,551 --> 00:07:55,428 do different religions in a relationship. 140 00:07:55,512 --> 00:07:56,721 - It's very common. - Okay. 141 00:07:56,805 --> 00:07:59,557 Sometimes, when you set your mind on something, 142 00:07:59,641 --> 00:08:01,142 it feels like you have tunnel vision. 143 00:08:01,226 --> 00:08:04,187 And then I don't feel I have the space to object. 144 00:08:04,270 --> 00:08:07,023 We're just… We're doing… This is what we're… We're just talking. 145 00:08:07,107 --> 00:08:10,652 Yeah, you're saying that we're talking, but this is your project. 146 00:08:10,735 --> 00:08:12,612 It's not like I really have a say. 147 00:08:15,740 --> 00:08:16,908 I mean, you… 148 00:08:19,160 --> 00:08:21,496 Did you know that the term "fragrance" 149 00:08:22,122 --> 00:08:25,792 can contain over 1000 nat… a thousand manmade chemicals? 150 00:08:26,251 --> 00:08:28,962 - Really? - It's really… Forever chemicals. 151 00:08:29,462 --> 00:08:34,217 But, yeah, sometimes I actually boil a pot of like, cloves, 152 00:08:35,135 --> 00:08:36,678 to, like, make the house smell good. 153 00:08:36,761 --> 00:08:39,180 Cloves? I thought you said clothes. 154 00:08:41,891 --> 00:08:44,060 Smell of fresh clothes. Yeah. 155 00:08:45,395 --> 00:08:51,109 So, obviously it's winter and the holidays are… coming up and… 156 00:08:52,986 --> 00:08:55,321 It's like Christmas time, and as… 157 00:08:56,739 --> 00:08:59,325 someone who is a Jew, and… 158 00:09:01,161 --> 00:09:07,000 could there be a path to doing Hanukkah too? 159 00:09:07,083 --> 00:09:13,882 And maybe even beyond that, raising Adam with Jewish… Judaism too. 160 00:09:16,759 --> 00:09:18,887 - As a faith? - As a faith, yeah. 161 00:09:20,263 --> 00:09:24,058 I'm pretty much like a no on the faith part 'cause… 162 00:09:26,519 --> 00:09:29,898 Jesus is the way, the truth, and the life. So… 163 00:09:30,231 --> 00:09:33,318 I'm not trying to get you to compromise your beliefs. 164 00:09:33,401 --> 00:09:37,739 I'm just… all I'm doing is saying, well, is there… Can I… 165 00:09:39,324 --> 00:09:43,119 get a little bit too and then we do it all together. 166 00:09:43,203 --> 00:09:45,997 We do both, you know, however we need to. 167 00:09:46,873 --> 00:09:51,628 I, unfortunately, cannot participate in Judaism. 168 00:09:52,378 --> 00:09:57,342 Because Judaism denies that Christ came and died for us. 169 00:09:58,009 --> 00:10:02,680 So, I can't deny that. And I wouldn't raise a child to deny that. 170 00:10:03,932 --> 00:10:05,683 'Cause it's the truth. 171 00:10:08,019 --> 00:10:11,022 I wanted everything to stay as calm as possible. 172 00:10:11,606 --> 00:10:13,107 Why don't we talk about something else? 173 00:10:13,191 --> 00:10:14,359 Okay. 174 00:10:17,153 --> 00:10:18,696 What's your favorite movie? 175 00:10:19,280 --> 00:10:21,366 I love the movie Apocalypto. 176 00:10:22,492 --> 00:10:23,826 - Have you seen it? - Yeah. 177 00:10:24,285 --> 00:10:26,329 I think Mel Gibson makes really good movies. 178 00:10:26,412 --> 00:10:27,622 Yeah, it's a classic. 179 00:10:27,705 --> 00:10:30,541 - Yeah. He's one of my favorite directors. - Right, right. 180 00:10:30,625 --> 00:10:33,336 I like his camera technique where he floats. 181 00:10:33,419 --> 00:10:34,545 He's a little… 182 00:10:35,964 --> 00:10:37,632 I think he just said, like… 183 00:10:38,883 --> 00:10:41,010 bad stuff about Jews and… 184 00:10:49,894 --> 00:10:52,313 But things quickly veered off course. 185 00:10:52,397 --> 00:10:54,482 You joked about eating feces… 186 00:10:54,565 --> 00:10:56,526 - He riffed it, so, I went with it. - …with a child. 187 00:10:57,276 --> 00:10:58,653 - No. - What do you mean, no? 188 00:10:58,736 --> 00:11:01,406 - It's not appropriate. - Do you know sketch comedy? 189 00:11:01,489 --> 00:11:04,367 Yes, I know. I watchKey & Peele, I know sketch comedy. 190 00:11:04,450 --> 00:11:06,452 Okay. So, you have to escalate the sketch, right? 191 00:11:06,536 --> 00:11:08,496 - Let me tell you something. - So, if you start with fart… 192 00:11:08,579 --> 00:11:11,582 - This is adult subject matter. - Do you wanna finish the dishes? 193 00:11:12,041 --> 00:11:13,418 - Sure. - Okay. 194 00:11:30,560 --> 00:11:34,147 Okay, you wanna take these? Okay. Here, put the jacket on. 195 00:11:34,605 --> 00:11:36,566 I signed him up for swimming lessons so I'll see you later. 196 00:11:36,649 --> 00:11:38,818 - Okay, awesome. Have a great time. - Okay. Bye. 197 00:11:38,901 --> 00:11:39,944 - Bye. - Bye. 198 00:11:40,027 --> 00:11:43,281 As much as we all love Mel Gibson as a director, 199 00:11:43,364 --> 00:11:45,867 he's not the director of this show. 200 00:11:46,200 --> 00:11:50,079 And in this show, I get to decide which religion gets featured. 201 00:11:50,163 --> 00:11:51,747 What do you know about… 202 00:11:53,040 --> 00:11:55,251 - Jews? - What? 203 00:11:56,377 --> 00:11:58,087 Judaism, Jews. 204 00:12:00,715 --> 00:12:01,883 What is that? 205 00:12:02,467 --> 00:12:04,093 There you go. 206 00:12:05,386 --> 00:12:07,805 Okay. This is a kippah. 207 00:12:08,473 --> 00:12:12,477 And it's a special hat that's for Jews only. 208 00:12:12,935 --> 00:12:15,062 You don't get one of these if you're Christian. 209 00:12:15,146 --> 00:12:17,398 - So, are you Christian or Jew? - Jew. 210 00:12:17,815 --> 00:12:20,818 Jew. Okay, good. There you go. So, you get one. 211 00:12:25,490 --> 00:12:26,616 Pretty cool, huh? 212 00:12:26,699 --> 00:12:29,744 I hadn't been to synagogue in years because it's so boring. 213 00:12:30,077 --> 00:12:31,704 - Shabbat shalom. - Shabbat shalom. 214 00:12:31,787 --> 00:12:33,581 But I couldn't help but feel excited 215 00:12:33,664 --> 00:12:37,376 to reconnect with my faith through the eyes of my son. 216 00:12:38,461 --> 00:12:44,467 - Do Jews speak English? - Yeah, I'm Jewish. I speak English. 217 00:12:44,550 --> 00:12:46,636 But Adam had a lot of questions, 218 00:12:46,719 --> 00:12:50,556 and I found myself unable to provide him with clear answers. 219 00:12:50,640 --> 00:12:54,644 - Why do the women not wear hats? - I don't know, actually. 220 00:12:55,102 --> 00:12:56,270 What are they saying? 221 00:12:58,856 --> 00:13:00,524 I think they're saying… 222 00:13:03,569 --> 00:13:06,656 So, I decided the next step would be getting him a Jewish tutor, 223 00:13:06,739 --> 00:13:08,991 since that's what I would do in real life. 224 00:13:09,408 --> 00:13:10,993 - I have a question. - Yeah. 225 00:13:11,077 --> 00:13:12,870 Was Jesus the first Jew? 226 00:13:14,413 --> 00:13:19,543 Jesus? No, no. The first Jew, his name was Abraham. 227 00:13:22,171 --> 00:13:23,214 Hey. 228 00:13:23,923 --> 00:13:25,132 Okay, lean your head over. 229 00:13:25,216 --> 00:13:28,219 I also needed to make sure that Adam had his story straight 230 00:13:28,302 --> 00:13:30,471 if Angela asked him any questions. 231 00:13:30,805 --> 00:13:34,475 So, each day before we got home, I quizzed him about what happened. 232 00:13:34,558 --> 00:13:36,143 So, what did do you learn at swimming today? 233 00:13:36,727 --> 00:13:38,980 I learned to do a backstroke. 234 00:13:39,063 --> 00:13:42,566 Okay, so, you were looking up. So, what color was the ceiling? 235 00:13:43,150 --> 00:13:44,276 It was white. 236 00:13:44,360 --> 00:13:46,696 - And was there a lifeguard at the pool? - Yeah. 237 00:13:46,779 --> 00:13:50,157 - And what was his name? - His name was Bob. 238 00:13:51,450 --> 00:13:52,702 - Hi. - Hi. 239 00:13:53,786 --> 00:13:56,789 - You're all wet. - It was really fun. 240 00:13:57,999 --> 00:14:02,169 And my teacher was Ukrainian and he had a blue swimsuit. 241 00:14:03,254 --> 00:14:04,380 Really? 242 00:14:05,965 --> 00:14:08,843 - The lifeguard's whistle was red. - Okay. Good. 243 00:14:09,719 --> 00:14:12,054 Yeah, so, I think he should go to his room maybe now. 244 00:14:12,138 --> 00:14:13,305 I think he's had a… 245 00:14:13,389 --> 00:14:16,308 - Okay. - He's a little tired, maybe. 246 00:14:17,893 --> 00:14:21,313 - Would he like a towel? - Yeah, yeah. I should get him. 247 00:14:21,689 --> 00:14:24,400 Just they get so wet in the water, the kids. 248 00:14:28,404 --> 00:14:32,408 For the first time in a while, it felt like there was harmony in our home. 249 00:14:32,491 --> 00:14:33,534 Okay, what do you want on there? 250 00:14:33,617 --> 00:14:35,035 - I like that one. - I want the spaceship one. 251 00:14:35,119 --> 00:14:36,328 Okay, hang it up. 252 00:14:36,412 --> 00:14:39,999 We were both able to get what we wanted out of raising this child. 253 00:14:40,082 --> 00:14:42,293 We're going to feed the chickens. 254 00:14:44,378 --> 00:14:45,588 Okay. This way. 255 00:14:48,215 --> 00:14:52,261 "Under King Antiochus, many Jews were afraid for their lives." 256 00:14:52,595 --> 00:14:55,598 "So, they were forced to follow the King's orders." 257 00:14:55,931 --> 00:14:57,850 "This group was called the Maccabees." 258 00:14:57,933 --> 00:15:01,395 - Can you say "hanukkiah"? Let me hear. - Hanukkiah. 259 00:15:01,896 --> 00:15:04,356 That's right. Look how smart you are. 260 00:15:04,774 --> 00:15:08,486 All right. Would it be okay if we use the bathroom really quick? 261 00:15:08,986 --> 00:15:10,780 - Yeah. Sure. - Okay. Come on. 262 00:15:10,863 --> 00:15:14,533 But when we started using Miriam's shower after every class… 263 00:15:14,617 --> 00:15:15,743 Is that a good temperature? 264 00:15:15,826 --> 00:15:17,786 …she began asking questions. 265 00:15:17,870 --> 00:15:20,206 - What happened to you? - It was just a little… 266 00:15:21,290 --> 00:15:24,126 The shower accidentally turned on, and then I slipped. 267 00:15:24,210 --> 00:15:27,171 It's okay, I mean, it's okay. It's… 268 00:15:32,968 --> 00:15:34,136 The woman I'm… 269 00:15:35,513 --> 00:15:39,350 parenting Adam with, she doesn't want him to be Jewish. 270 00:15:41,268 --> 00:15:45,231 And so I'm kind of having to do it in secret a little bit. 271 00:15:46,982 --> 00:15:50,277 I gathered that from the questions that he asked me. 272 00:15:51,737 --> 00:15:54,406 You know, he asked me "Did the Jews kill Jesus?" 273 00:15:54,490 --> 00:15:57,451 I talked to her about wanting to like compromise 274 00:15:57,535 --> 00:15:58,953 and be like, well, maybe we could do both? 275 00:15:59,286 --> 00:16:03,582 And she thinks Judaism is kind of an affront to Christianity. 276 00:16:03,666 --> 00:16:07,544 - And so she doesn't want to do… and… - I wouldn't stand for that, man. 277 00:16:08,337 --> 00:16:11,006 Miriam was making me feel like a bad Jew. 278 00:16:11,090 --> 00:16:17,096 For centuries and centuries, the Christian people were terrified of the Jews 279 00:16:17,179 --> 00:16:22,851 because their religion was older and, you know, the real thing. 280 00:16:23,310 --> 00:16:27,481 And that's why they tried to kill us for so many thousands of years. 281 00:16:27,815 --> 00:16:30,943 So, for me, that wouldn't be okay, you know? 282 00:16:31,777 --> 00:16:34,530 You have to stand up to that. You're 38 years old. 283 00:16:37,616 --> 00:16:39,868 - You're not a kid. You know? - Yeah. 284 00:16:40,286 --> 00:16:43,122 And I was realizing that being a Jewish father 285 00:16:43,205 --> 00:16:45,291 was more complicated than I thought. 286 00:16:45,374 --> 00:16:46,542 I heard your part. 287 00:16:46,959 --> 00:16:49,628 I want to hear what she has to say about her stand. 288 00:16:49,712 --> 00:16:50,796 You wanna talk to her? 289 00:16:50,879 --> 00:16:54,675 I could bring in some of that knowledge that I told you to study about. 290 00:16:55,342 --> 00:16:59,013 Miriam wanted to talk to Angela about how we were raising Adam. 291 00:16:59,430 --> 00:17:02,850 And I thought that could maybe be a good idea. 292 00:17:03,726 --> 00:17:06,186 Do you need to rehearse at all? 293 00:17:08,605 --> 00:17:10,733 I like to shoot from the hip. 294 00:17:13,110 --> 00:17:16,155 Miriam knows more about religion than me. 295 00:17:16,572 --> 00:17:18,157 Maybe she could win her over. 296 00:17:18,699 --> 00:17:20,743 - This is my friend Miriam. - Hi, Miriam. 297 00:17:20,826 --> 00:17:23,162 - Hi, nice to meet you, Angela. - Nice to meet you. Pleasure. 298 00:17:23,245 --> 00:17:29,793 So, you're very conflicted about Judaism being part of Adam's life. 299 00:17:30,794 --> 00:17:33,464 So, can you tell me why, or what… 300 00:17:34,089 --> 00:17:38,010 I wouldn't describe the way that I'm feeling as conflicted. 301 00:17:38,093 --> 00:17:41,305 I might use a different word. I might use… 302 00:17:43,474 --> 00:17:46,810 - I'm just against it. As a faith. - Okay. 303 00:17:47,311 --> 00:17:50,731 Judaism denies that Christ has returned yet. 304 00:17:50,814 --> 00:17:54,902 What about the values of Judaism and the values of Christianity? 305 00:17:54,985 --> 00:17:59,448 - Do they conflict with each other too? - Same values. Same values. 306 00:17:59,865 --> 00:18:01,658 - Yeah, so what's the deal? - Yes. Yes. 307 00:18:02,284 --> 00:18:03,827 - What's the deal here? - Yeah, what's the deal? 308 00:18:03,911 --> 00:18:06,997 Why are you so persistent about this one point? 309 00:18:07,080 --> 00:18:10,918 Jesus Christ. That's the deal. He is the deal. 310 00:18:11,543 --> 00:18:14,630 - He is the chief cornerstone. - You know what? Forget about it. 311 00:18:15,088 --> 00:18:16,840 - Forget about it. - Forget about what? 312 00:18:17,299 --> 00:18:20,511 About all of it. I don't do well with anti-Semites. 313 00:18:20,969 --> 00:18:22,179 So, that's it. 314 00:18:23,222 --> 00:18:24,556 I'm done with this. 315 00:18:26,058 --> 00:18:28,685 You know? I think that's the end of the discussion. 316 00:18:28,769 --> 00:18:32,397 She's saying she's understanding, but then she's insisting that… 317 00:18:32,481 --> 00:18:36,193 I have no hate towards anyone. I love Jesus Christ and I won't deny Him. 318 00:18:36,276 --> 00:18:37,319 That's it. 319 00:18:37,402 --> 00:18:39,321 And maybe one day you'll understand 320 00:18:39,404 --> 00:18:42,491 that the world does not revolve around Jesus Christ. 321 00:18:42,824 --> 00:18:44,701 Nathan likes to start fights. 322 00:18:44,785 --> 00:18:48,288 There was peace in the household until he came with this. 323 00:18:48,372 --> 00:18:50,832 Who does it look like likes to start fights, based on this… 324 00:18:50,916 --> 00:18:52,417 And he likes to manipulate people. 325 00:18:52,501 --> 00:18:55,546 - What do you think? - You know that during the Middle Ages… 326 00:18:55,879 --> 00:18:57,464 It's hard for him to be honest. 327 00:18:57,548 --> 00:19:00,551 You don't have to talk about Jesus constantly. 328 00:19:00,634 --> 00:19:03,762 Nathan has a problem with lying. He lies a lot. 329 00:19:05,347 --> 00:19:06,640 He does. 330 00:19:12,396 --> 00:19:16,858 I found myself needing a place to go from time to time, away from the house. 331 00:19:19,236 --> 00:19:22,614 My replica bar set had been sitting empty for months. 332 00:19:23,115 --> 00:19:27,452 So, I recently obtained an Oregon State special events liquor license 333 00:19:27,536 --> 00:19:32,165 and built an 82-foot enclosed walkway leading to the outside world. 334 00:19:33,333 --> 00:19:36,878 For legal reasons, I couldn't use the name Alligator Lounge, 335 00:19:36,962 --> 00:19:39,798 but I came up with a new name that was even cooler. 336 00:19:40,966 --> 00:19:43,635 The sign was enough to attract a few locals 337 00:19:43,719 --> 00:19:48,098 who had no idea this bar was actually just a set in a warehouse. 338 00:19:49,182 --> 00:19:52,060 I figured since it was here, I might as well use it. 339 00:19:52,769 --> 00:19:56,398 And it was cool to own my own bar that HBO paid for. 340 00:19:56,898 --> 00:19:58,734 I'm the Nate from Nate's Lizard Lounge. Yeah. 341 00:19:59,067 --> 00:20:02,404 It was also a way of keeping some of my acting students employed 342 00:20:02,487 --> 00:20:03,989 in between roles. 343 00:20:06,575 --> 00:20:11,204 I had been reviewing the footage from the 16 cameras I'd installed in our home 344 00:20:11,288 --> 00:20:13,707 because I was having an increasingly difficult time 345 00:20:13,790 --> 00:20:16,043 interpreting Angela's behavior. 346 00:20:16,835 --> 00:20:18,712 We were having more disagreements, 347 00:20:18,795 --> 00:20:21,048 which was a good challenge for a rehearsal. 348 00:20:21,131 --> 00:20:22,799 You ate feces. 349 00:20:22,883 --> 00:20:25,093 - You ate the child's feces. - I did… 350 00:20:25,177 --> 00:20:27,512 - Angela, it was a chocolate bar. - I don't care. 351 00:20:27,846 --> 00:20:31,725 But sometimes I couldn't tell if we were arguing as co-parents 352 00:20:31,808 --> 00:20:34,019 or if she was actually mad at me. 353 00:20:34,102 --> 00:20:38,648 Are you aware that eating poo is actually a satanic ritual? 354 00:20:39,900 --> 00:20:41,234 - I… No. - Like… 355 00:20:41,318 --> 00:20:44,696 Maybe you should make a list for me of all the things that are satanic, 356 00:20:44,780 --> 00:20:48,241 so that I know when I'm doing something, how to avoid them. 357 00:20:48,325 --> 00:20:51,411 I'm gonna bring home oranges from the grocery store and you're gonna be like, 358 00:20:51,495 --> 00:20:52,621 "That's satanic." 359 00:20:53,789 --> 00:20:58,835 I had assumed she was just really engaged with this parenting rehearsal. 360 00:20:59,211 --> 00:21:02,881 But when I started reviewing the footage from when I was out of town, 361 00:21:02,964 --> 00:21:04,966 it painted a different story. 362 00:21:05,884 --> 00:21:09,930 From the moment I left, Angela had completely abandoned the notion 363 00:21:10,013 --> 00:21:13,225 that she was rehearsing for her future life as a mother. 364 00:21:13,308 --> 00:21:15,852 Usually your other house is in Vancouver? 365 00:21:15,936 --> 00:21:20,232 No. My dad is in Vancouver for his job. I live in Los Angeles. 366 00:21:20,607 --> 00:21:23,109 - But your real name's Josh. - Joshua, yeah. 367 00:21:23,693 --> 00:21:25,487 - You live in LA? - Yes. 368 00:21:25,570 --> 00:21:27,113 - Awsome! So you came here for this? - Yes. 369 00:21:28,365 --> 00:21:31,660 There were no homeschool lessons, no gardening, 370 00:21:31,743 --> 00:21:34,329 and the fake orders she was supposed to package up 371 00:21:34,412 --> 00:21:39,251 to simulate the future success of her home business ceased to go out, 372 00:21:40,210 --> 00:21:43,547 leaving the fake mailman with nothing to pick up. 373 00:21:44,172 --> 00:21:47,676 All the effort I had put into maintaining this delicate reality, 374 00:21:48,260 --> 00:21:50,470 had gone out the window. 375 00:21:52,597 --> 00:21:55,308 So, what was Angela actually doing here? 376 00:21:56,810 --> 00:22:01,898 I'm just so confused. You won't let me have the experience I want. 377 00:22:01,982 --> 00:22:05,694 But… I can't even tell if you're invested in this yourself. 378 00:22:06,736 --> 00:22:10,740 I'm as invested as I can be. But this is all sort of absurd, right? 379 00:22:11,116 --> 00:22:13,243 Swapping out the kids through the window, 380 00:22:13,326 --> 00:22:15,537 aging them three years at a time. 381 00:22:15,620 --> 00:22:19,374 It won't work if you don't try. You have to want it to work. 382 00:22:19,958 --> 00:22:22,460 Are you mad that I have been caught up in my work 383 00:22:22,544 --> 00:22:25,380 and haven't been prioritizing our family life? Because if so… 384 00:22:25,463 --> 00:22:29,009 What family life? You know we're not your real family, right? 385 00:22:29,092 --> 00:22:31,386 This is your work. All of this. 386 00:22:33,096 --> 00:22:35,974 I was starting to lose track of which version of myself 387 00:22:36,057 --> 00:22:37,976 I was supposed to be in these rehearsals. 388 00:22:38,476 --> 00:22:41,980 But I wanted to know what Angela was hoping to get from all this. 389 00:22:42,063 --> 00:22:44,190 So, is this silly? 390 00:22:44,649 --> 00:22:47,610 Or is it something that I should take seriously? 391 00:22:47,986 --> 00:22:49,904 It's silly and serious. 392 00:22:50,739 --> 00:22:54,451 It's complicated. Life can be more than one thing, right? 393 00:22:54,534 --> 00:22:57,412 Life's complicated, and… Why are you even here? 394 00:22:57,495 --> 00:23:00,373 - What's the real reason? Honestly? - Okay, well, why are you here? 395 00:23:01,249 --> 00:23:04,627 Why are you doing this? Are you really trying to help me? 396 00:23:04,961 --> 00:23:09,257 Or am I the silly part that you talk about? Is my life the joke? 397 00:23:09,799 --> 00:23:13,386 Do you sit here with your friends at the end of the day laughing at me? 398 00:23:13,470 --> 00:23:15,555 No, you're not the joke. Not at all. 399 00:23:16,181 --> 00:23:20,477 No one's the joke. The situations are funny, but interesting too. 400 00:23:20,560 --> 00:23:21,644 Shut up. 401 00:23:21,728 --> 00:23:24,773 Like, the opportunity to raise your kids in a rehearsal… 402 00:23:24,856 --> 00:23:26,232 Just shut up! 403 00:23:28,943 --> 00:23:31,905 You're a liar. Because if this were real, 404 00:23:32,322 --> 00:23:37,577 you would have some sort of emotion instead of standing there like a rock. 405 00:23:40,997 --> 00:23:43,124 Do you want to feel something? 406 00:23:44,292 --> 00:23:46,836 Do you want to feel something real? 407 00:23:50,298 --> 00:23:51,382 Yeah. 408 00:23:52,759 --> 00:23:54,135 That's sad. 409 00:23:55,011 --> 00:23:56,387 You never will. 410 00:23:56,971 --> 00:23:58,723 No matter how hard you try… 411 00:24:01,434 --> 00:24:02,602 you never will. 412 00:24:13,738 --> 00:24:14,781 Okay. 413 00:24:15,615 --> 00:24:18,868 Maybe we can try a… just a nicer version… 414 00:24:19,244 --> 00:24:22,330 Yeah. Okay. Yeah, we can do that. 415 00:24:24,791 --> 00:24:26,543 - That was really good. - Okay. 416 00:24:30,547 --> 00:24:33,591 - How're you doing? - I'm doing very well, thank you. 417 00:24:34,801 --> 00:24:36,511 - How are you? - Good. 418 00:24:37,387 --> 00:24:38,513 Good. 419 00:24:42,141 --> 00:24:46,271 I was looking at some of the footage from when I was away out of town. 420 00:24:47,397 --> 00:24:50,650 I guess it seems like maybe that when I'm not around, 421 00:24:50,733 --> 00:24:56,364 that you don't care so much about the reality of the experience, 422 00:24:56,447 --> 00:25:02,495 yet when I'm here, you're very controlling about what I can experience… in it. 423 00:25:05,164 --> 00:25:07,834 - Does that make sense? - It definitely does. 424 00:25:10,795 --> 00:25:13,882 I navigated through a lot of situations that, 425 00:25:14,716 --> 00:25:19,679 were difficult and uncertain, and I wasn't given a lot of direction. 426 00:25:20,430 --> 00:25:23,308 I could have been a collaborator with you on this. 427 00:25:24,100 --> 00:25:26,102 More so than… than you've let me. 428 00:25:26,185 --> 00:25:29,397 Angela, a collaborator? This whole thing is you. 429 00:25:30,106 --> 00:25:33,026 - This is your ideal house. - I'm talking about psychological. 430 00:25:33,109 --> 00:25:35,778 This is how you wanted to raise the children. This is everything. 431 00:25:35,862 --> 00:25:37,280 But I've never done this before. 432 00:25:37,363 --> 00:25:39,032 - Yeah, and neither have I. - No direction. 433 00:25:39,115 --> 00:25:40,199 - Neither have I. - No direction. 434 00:25:40,283 --> 00:25:43,745 And we figured it out. And I feel like… we still make mistakes, but… 435 00:25:44,078 --> 00:25:45,330 we're doing okay. 436 00:25:45,413 --> 00:25:50,001 So, originally, I wanted the whole thing. I wanted zero to eighteen. 437 00:25:50,376 --> 00:25:54,047 - Yeah, we can still do that. - Yeah, but, it's like… 438 00:25:56,466 --> 00:25:59,761 Kind of almost like I don't know… I don't see an end in sight. 439 00:25:59,844 --> 00:26:03,306 I don't know when we're gonna get to the 18-year-old. I don't know. 440 00:26:03,890 --> 00:26:08,811 And I think it's a good time to bring closure to it. 441 00:26:10,313 --> 00:26:12,315 Yeah. I think it's a good time. 442 00:26:13,608 --> 00:26:14,692 Okay. 443 00:26:18,363 --> 00:26:23,242 I… I feel incredibly blessed to have been chosen for this. 444 00:26:23,326 --> 00:26:29,624 And… thank you for all the work you put in to tailor this to my experience. 445 00:26:30,833 --> 00:26:32,877 It's in… they did a really excellent job 446 00:26:33,503 --> 00:26:36,506 down to the details. So, thank you. 447 00:26:37,465 --> 00:26:39,967 - Thank you so much. It's very special. - Yeah, thank you. 448 00:26:40,843 --> 00:26:42,470 - You're welcome. - Thank you. 449 00:26:43,429 --> 00:26:45,056 Thank you for being a part of it. 450 00:26:45,139 --> 00:26:46,182 - Yeah. - Yeah. 451 00:26:47,350 --> 00:26:49,310 - Yeah, definitely. - Okay. 452 00:26:49,394 --> 00:26:50,436 I'll take my tea. 453 00:26:54,065 --> 00:26:55,483 Thanks. 454 00:27:14,127 --> 00:27:15,211 Thank you! 455 00:27:20,049 --> 00:27:21,801 Thanks for this experience. 456 00:27:21,884 --> 00:27:23,344 - Okay. - I really appreciate it. 457 00:27:23,427 --> 00:27:24,554 - Yeah. - Daddy! 458 00:27:24,637 --> 00:27:28,432 The woman who this rehearsal was designed for was now gone. 459 00:27:32,770 --> 00:27:35,982 So, what was this urge inside of me to carry on? 460 00:27:39,026 --> 00:27:41,154 Hey, buddy! Can I talk to you about something? 461 00:27:41,237 --> 00:27:42,280 What? 462 00:27:43,281 --> 00:27:45,575 Your mommy's decided to leave the family, okay? 463 00:27:45,950 --> 00:27:48,119 - Why? - I don't know. 464 00:27:48,744 --> 00:27:50,872 But, hey! It has nothing to do with you, okay? 465 00:27:51,622 --> 00:27:54,125 - Yeah. - You still got me, right? 466 00:27:55,376 --> 00:27:56,419 Who am I? 467 00:27:58,629 --> 00:27:59,881 Who am I? 468 00:28:00,756 --> 00:28:01,924 Daddy. 469 00:28:02,425 --> 00:28:04,594 Maybe doing this alone is what I needed. 470 00:28:06,262 --> 00:28:08,806 To sink or swim on my own terms. 471 00:28:20,735 --> 00:28:23,821 It was time to stand up for my own values. 472 00:28:26,240 --> 00:28:29,577 And the values of those who came before me. 473 00:28:31,412 --> 00:28:34,665 We don't always get to choose what happens in life, 474 00:28:34,749 --> 00:28:37,627 but we do get to decide if we rehearse for it. 475 00:28:51,766 --> 00:28:54,393 So… she's gone. 476 00:28:55,311 --> 00:28:56,687 - What? - Yeah. 477 00:28:56,771 --> 00:29:00,316 Congratulations, my dear! What's gonna happen to Adam? 478 00:29:01,233 --> 00:29:03,110 - I got Adam. - You got Adam. 479 00:29:03,194 --> 00:29:05,029 - Yeah, he sticks with me. - She just left Adam behind? 480 00:29:05,112 --> 00:29:06,697 - Yeah. - Awesome. 481 00:29:06,781 --> 00:29:09,033 - Yeah. Pretty good? - Yes! 482 00:29:09,116 --> 00:29:10,701 - Come on in. - We're gonna make another Jew. 483 00:29:11,035 --> 00:29:13,162 And hold it as we say the blessing. 484 00:29:26,842 --> 00:29:30,596 Israel warned those civilians that there was gonna be a bombing. 485 00:29:30,680 --> 00:29:32,890 They had time to get out if they wanted to. 486 00:29:33,349 --> 00:29:35,935 So, the AP right away blamed Israel for everything. 487 00:29:36,018 --> 00:29:39,730 Media is biased for the Palestinians against the Israelis. 488 00:29:39,814 --> 00:29:42,483 - Okay. - And that's how they present the news. 489 00:29:42,566 --> 00:29:44,652 What's your opinion about Israel? 490 00:29:45,027 --> 00:29:47,988 It's kind of a hot button issue right now, isn't it? 491 00:29:48,447 --> 00:29:49,824 - What? - Israel. 492 00:29:49,907 --> 00:29:52,785 You have a platform, you should support Israel. 493 00:29:52,868 --> 00:29:55,788 That's part of being Jewish… is supporting Israel. 494 00:29:55,871 --> 00:30:01,168 So, I should say, like… like my opinion, or… 495 00:30:01,252 --> 00:30:03,671 Well, what do you think about the Palestinian issue? 496 00:30:03,754 --> 00:30:04,964 Well… 497 00:30:05,840 --> 00:30:07,258 I mean, I… I… I… 498 00:30:09,051 --> 00:30:11,178 I guess I support… 499 00:30:11,971 --> 00:30:13,556 I mean it's tricky 'cause, you know, 500 00:30:13,639 --> 00:30:15,724 I know there's a lot of people with strong opinions about it… 501 00:30:15,808 --> 00:30:19,562 You have a platform, you should talk about how beautiful Israel is, 502 00:30:19,645 --> 00:30:22,940 how important it is in the whole Middle East. 503 00:30:23,274 --> 00:30:25,693 - How we are a light to the nations. - Yeah. 504 00:30:25,776 --> 00:30:30,906 How in Israel was invented all kinds of medical advances 505 00:30:30,990 --> 00:30:33,784 that help all the people of all the world, 506 00:30:33,868 --> 00:30:37,913 and some of them don't even know that they were invented there. 507 00:30:38,330 --> 00:30:43,627 And then that, the Intel and the microchips and the computers 508 00:30:43,711 --> 00:30:46,672 and the medical advances and all kinds of things, 509 00:30:46,755 --> 00:30:50,092 that we are ohr la'goyim, a light to the nations. 510 00:30:50,926 --> 00:30:53,304 These doughnuts are delicious. 511 00:30:54,847 --> 00:30:57,850 - In Hebrew, we call them sufganiyot. - Sufganiyot, right. 512 00:30:57,933 --> 00:30:59,018 They're not exactly sufganiyot 513 00:30:59,101 --> 00:31:01,729 because the sufganiyot are not sugar coated. 514 00:31:01,812 --> 00:31:03,939 These are just jelly doughnuts.